Can We Acknowledge Each Other as Sexual Beings?

Musings on Our Neutered Imago Dei

It is rather easy to acknowledge our social sexuality, our gender as males and females. What is much harder to affirm is that our friends, our neighbors, and our coworkers actually also have genitals and erotic desires. For many, this thought provokes much discomfort. In many respects, we seem to prefer our acquaintances neutered or […]

Freeing Eros for Agape

For many Christians, eros stands in stark opposition to agape forms of love. Eros is viewed from many pulpits as a natural, selfish drive that must be carefully managed and is only rightly satisfied (or better tolerated) in marriage, while agape is seen as the spiritual, higher, sacrificial giving love that all Christians are to […]

“Embodiment Matters | Prof. Kayb Joseph”
by Covenant College


November 23, 2015

Given the amount of body shaming and objectification present in our culture, Professor Kayb Joseph of Covenant College offers some challenging and timely thoughts.

While we have a fantastic theology of the body available to us in the Bible, we hear little about it beyond what the church tells us our bodies are not for. Little attention is given to what they are for. Thus, our bodies have become isolated in our culture. We have become suspicious of touch and the body communal. With great difficulty, we attempt to live out an embodied experience without an understanding of what it means to be soul enfleshed. We do not understand that Christian spirituality is not freedom from the body, but freedom within the body. That Christ’s embodiment dignifies and exemplifies this for us.

How can we reimagine the body in a positive and Christian way? What would it look like to engage in countercultural acts of image-making that affirm our embodied existence?

Listen to the full chapel address below:

A Conversation for Men About the Human Body

Authentic Man Program
May 26, 2015

How can we learn to appreciate the elegance and beauty of the human form? Often nudity is framed as sexual, and sexuality is presented as objectifying and degrading.

As David Bollt (Model Society) has aptly stated,

You can see nudity or sex as a celebration of something beautiful, or you can see it as a product…removed from the underlying humanity.

And Casey Capshaw (Authentic Man Program – AMP) goes on to say,

As a society, we can’t seem to turn away from violence, and welcome in film, television, games, and literature.

Nudity, on the other hand, is most often relegated to the profane, reduced to the pornographic and hidden in shame.

How can we create space to honor the dignity of our humanity more than the depravity?

The conversation linked above between David and Casey Capshaw tackles some of these issues.

It is encouraging to discover I am not alone in seeking to “bring some sanity and beauty into (what often seems like) an insane, unloving world.” I only wish that one day this will be a conversation we can have in the church as well.

Let’s support a holy vision of human beauty and sexuality!

Note: A version of the podcast is also posted here on YouTube with some examples from David Bollt’s Model Society

 

The Power of Sexual Wonder

After listening to a recent podcast exploring the power of wonder and why we need it in our lives, I was left curious. If there are benefits of wonder in general, was this also true for sexual wonder? What if our fascination with nudity and sexual images is less a perversion to be eliminated and […]

Freedom of Sexual Fantasies

I’m concerned about my husband’s use of fantasies during our sexual encounters. He says he can no longer finish [climax] without relying on them. Are all sexual fantasies bad? God has created us with a powerful mind. We are able to think, imagine, and enrich the joy in our lives with many new and creative […]

Sexual Idol or Icon?

God has created an altogether wonderful and utterly fascinating world. We get to enjoy majestic mountains and curvaceous slopes, hidden ravines and luscious gardens with the choicest of fruit. What’s more, we get to delight in the crown of creation through the beauty of the human form, our bodies, souls, and spirits. Through creation the […]

Affected by Beauty

It seems many of us have an uncertain relationship with beauty, especially when it comes to the human form. We stand in awe at the breathtaking wonder of our created form, and yet there is often fear of objectifying and using others for our own selfish entertainment. How do we praise God for allowing such […]

Erotic Art versus Pornography

Often, and with much shame and guilt, men have confessed to me their obsession with erotic images. They seek to both understand their compulsion and find freedom from it. Listening to their stories, my own curiosity is stirred. I realize how many times the rich beauty of eroticism enchants me, while at other times I […]

Thoughts on addiction to pornography

I have a friend who has a little habit. He begins every morning indulging in its pleasures before heading to work. He jokes he cannot start his day without it. Frequently, he goes to specialty shops to spice things up and experience a little variety. When he is feeling stressed he does it more often. […]