Can We Acknowledge Each Other as Sexual Beings?

Musings on Our Neutered Imago Dei

It is rather easy to acknowledge our social sexuality, our gender as males and females. What is much harder to affirm is that our friends, our neighbors, and our coworkers actually also have genitals and erotic desires. For many, this thought provokes much discomfort. In many respects, we seem to prefer our acquaintances neutered or […]

Freeing Eros for Agape

For many Christians, eros stands in stark opposition to agape forms of love. Eros is viewed from many pulpits as a natural, selfish drive that must be carefully managed and is only rightly satisfied (or better tolerated) in marriage, while agape is seen as the spiritual, higher, sacrificial giving love that all Christians are to […]

The Power of Sexual Wonder

After listening to a recent podcast exploring the power of wonder and why we need it in our lives, I was left curious. If there are benefits of wonder in general, was this also true for sexual wonder? What if our fascination with nudity and sexual images is less a perversion to be eliminated and […]

Desiring Ecstasy

Crawling in from work exhausted and tired, my soul is hungry. I am ready for a break, for an escape, for relief, but also for something more, something deeper which these words cannot adequately express. My soul is craving ecstasy. In ecstasy, I am fully alive and connected with every living thing. All too often […]

Erotic by His Design

“I feel bad for wanting sex so often. I know there are more important things in life. What can I do to reduce my sexual urges?” It is true sex dominates the lives of many men. And for some it has become the most important thing, defining their very self-worth and relational success. At the same […]

Freedom of Sexual Fantasies

I’m concerned about my husband’s use of fantasies during our sexual encounters. He says he can no longer finish [climax] without relying on them. Are all sexual fantasies bad? God has created us with a powerful mind. We are able to think, imagine, and enrich the joy in our lives with many new and creative […]

You have the necessity of building an erotic vocabulary so you can enjoy the gift of making love with the comfort and flair God desires. The vocabulary must enhance the loving, exciting process of making love. -Dr. Douglas Rosenau

Sexual Vocabulary - Dr. Corey Carlisle

Resurrecting Sex: Solving Sexual Problems and Revolutionizing Your Relationship

From Amazon: Resurrecting Sex addresses all major sexual issues, including male erection problems such as rapid orgasm and delayed orgasm; women’s problems with arousal and lubrication, difficulty reaching orgasm, and low desire; full coverage of Viagra (for both men and women); and other sex-enhancing drugs and medical options. Rather than dwelling on sexual techniques, this sympathetic book shows how to cure the rejection, hostility, and emotional alienation that often accompany sexual problems. Its unique method helps couples develop the love, affection, and commitment that prevent divorce and strengthen families.

Intimacy & Desire: Awaken the Passion in Your Relationship

From Amazon: Many couples begin marital counseling with Dr. David Schnarch with their sex lives in shambles, wondering what’s wrong with them, considering divorce. One partner will complain that the other doesn’t desire him, the other complains that she’s married to a sex maniac. During his 30 years in practice as a marriage and family therapist, Dr. Schnarch has discovered that sexual desire problems are normal and even healthy, in committed relationships.In Intimacy and Desire: Awaken the Passion in Your Relationship, Dr. Schnarch explains why couples in long term relationships have sexual desire problems, regardless of how much they love each other or how well they communicate. Through case studies of couples he worked with, Dr. Schnarch shows why normal marital conflict can be the cause of desire problems and creates a roadmap for how couples can transform marital conflict into a stronger relationship and a font of new and powerful desire for each other. He takes it a step further, giving readers simple but effective exercises that will help them reconnect with each other.

Passionate Marriage: Keeping Love and Intimacy Alive in Committed Relationships

From Amazon: Passionate Marriage has long been recognized as the pioneering book on intimate human relationships. Now with a new preface by the author, this updated edition explores the ways we can keep passion alive and even reach the height of sexual and emotional fulfillment later in life. Acclaimed psychologist David Schnarch guides couples toward greater intimacy with proven techniques developed in his clinical practice and worldwide workshops. Chapters―covering everything from understanding love relationships to helpful “tools for connections” to keeping the sparks alive years down the road―provide the scaffolding for overcoming sexual and emotional problems. This inspirational book is sure to help couples invigorate their relationships and reach the fullest potential in their love lives.