Who Cares for the Sexual Lives of Men?

My dad was a private man when it came to sexual issues. I did find some of his Playboys growing up. And me and my friends used to joke about what we saw and what we wanted to do with the women. I guess, with my dad, I learned to keep most of my sexual […]

Are You a Digger or a Disher?

“I assumed if she wanted to know more about me she would ask. She didn’t, so I assumed she didn’t care to know any more.” –The Digger  “I assumed if he had something to share he would. He didn’t, so I assumed he was either disconnected from his emotions or didn’t have anything else to […]

Freeing Eros for Agape

For many Christians, eros stands in stark opposition to agape forms of love. Eros is viewed from many pulpits as a natural, selfish drive that must be carefully managed and is only rightly satisfied (or better tolerated) in marriage, while agape is seen as the spiritual, higher, sacrificial giving love that all Christians are to […]

Embracing the Bittersweet Transitions of Life

How exciting it must be to get married, to see your kids leave for college, or to finally reach the time of retirement! All true, and yet these times can also bring sadness. The transitions of life are often bittersweet. While there can be great anticipation as we move into the next stages of life, […]

It’s Not My Job to Grow Up My Spouse

The following insights are some of the hardest but most valuable interpersonal lessons I’ve learned over time… It’s not my job to “grow up” my husband. That’s God’s job. Realizing that my role in life and in my relationships, first and foremost, is to allow God to grow ME up has freed me from over-focusing on others. […]

Say Yes to Your Marriage

We are intentional beings. Daily we make choices on how to devote our time and energy. We may choose to keep up with our favorite sports team or television show, the trending topics on social media, or the latest political drama. We might also choose to dedicate our time to professional development, hobbies, physical health, […]

Freedom of Sexual Fantasies

I’m concerned about my husband’s use of fantasies during our sexual encounters. He says he can no longer finish [climax] without relying on them. Are all sexual fantasies bad? God has created us with a powerful mind. We are able to think, imagine, and enrich the joy in our lives with many new and creative […]

Choosing Freedom Over Blame

The blame game was originated by Adam in the Garden many years ago as he blamed Eve for his choice to sin. Eve in turn continued the game by blaming the serpent. Throughout the history of mankind this game has continued. Today it is often found in the popular motto: It’s not my fault. Commercials […]