Do Men Do Intimacy Differently?

“Men move toward whatever makes them feel competent,” and sitting down to talk about feelings generally doesn’t fit the bill. However, this does not mean that men do not do intimacy or are simply not good at it. It means we must expand our understanding of intimacy and how we go about achieving it. For […]

Freeing Eros for Agape

For many Christians, eros stands in stark opposition to agape forms of love. Eros is viewed from many pulpits as a natural, selfish drive that must be carefully managed and is only rightly satisfied (or better tolerated) in marriage, while agape is seen as the spiritual, higher, sacrificial giving love that all Christians are to […]

Become a Marriage Mentor

It’s exciting and mildly terrifying to start this path of marriage. I love my parents, but wish we had someone to talk to who wouldn’t try to parent us, and who could also be more personal than professional counseling. A young couple embarking on the journey of marriage would benefit greatly from having an older […]

An Outward Focus (Marriage Purpose)

“Now that the kids have left the house it seems we don’t have much in common anymore. We go to work, worship, and occasionally spend time with friends, but our marriage no longer seems to have much meaning or purpose. We live separate lives and just happen to sleep in the same bed.” For many, […]

Marriage Mission, Vision, Purpose

The Exclusive and Inclusive Nature of Marriage

My wife and our marriage are a priority in my life. However, at times I feel suffocated. I enjoy spending time with others, and with her included, but it seems she always wants it to be just the two of us. How can I help her understand that time with others is not a rejection […]

Exclusive Inclusive Marriage

Engage Your Passions

One of my favorite memories growing up was sitting with my dad after dinner waiting for the next episode of Star Trek to begin. I’m mostly a closet Trekkie, but the show appealed to my curiosity “to explore strange new worlds.” I love investigating the world around me, particularly how people relate to each other. […]

Eros Toward the World

It is not difficult to see the many divisions that exist in the world and the pain caused by such discord. For example, many recent events have reminded us that race relations are not yet healed in our nation. As Christians, we are aware that we can find oneness and unity in Christ (Galatians 3:26-28). […]