It’s Not My Job to Grow Up My Spouse

The following insights are some of the hardest but most valuable interpersonal lessons I’ve learned over time… It’s not my job to “grow up” my husband. That’s God’s job. Realizing that my role in life and in my relationships, first and foremost, is to allow God to grow ME up has freed me from over-focusing on others. […]

Say Yes to Your Marriage

We are intentional beings. Daily we make choices on how to devote our time and energy. We may choose to keep up with our favorite sports team or television show, the trending topics on social media, or the latest political drama. We might also choose to dedicate our time to professional development, hobbies, physical health, […]

Pet Peeves in Marriage

There is a single, unopened Twix bar that continually sits on our nightstand. And it drives me insane. Perhaps I should explain… My amazing husband travels for work, and on each trip he returns with a Twix bar offered to him by an air stewardess completely unaware of the ongoing feud she is enabling within […]

Getting His Attention

Why can’t my husband pay more attention to me? After we got married it seemed I was no longer a priority. What can I do to help him turn more toward me? Editor’s Note: This article originally appeared on BetterThanTheHoneymoon.com. This is a common complaint from many wives. They long for their husband’s attention, presence, and […]

An Outward Focus (Marriage Purpose)

“Now that the kids have left the house it seems we don’t have much in common anymore. We go to work, worship, and occasionally spend time with friends, but our marriage no longer seems to have much meaning or purpose. We live separate lives and just happen to sleep in the same bed.” For many, […]

Marriage Mission, Vision, Purpose

The Exclusive and Inclusive Nature of Marriage

My wife and our marriage are a priority in my life. However, at times I feel suffocated. I enjoy spending time with others, and with her included, but it seems she always wants it to be just the two of us. How can I help her understand that time with others is not a rejection […]

Exclusive Inclusive Marriage

How to get your wife to stop nagging you and initiate sex more often

Dr. Corey recently wrote a post on my blog about helping wives know how to get their man’s attention. One of his statements was that “nagging doesn’t help.” I couldn’t help but think how important it could be for men to have some tips about how to help their wives stop nagging and start initiating […]

From Contempt to Admiration

Dr. John Gottman, a relationship expert and researcher, has identified four horsemen that can statistically predict divorce: criticism, contempt, defensiveness, and stonewalling. Contempt is considered the worst. It is poisonous to a marriage because it conveys deep revulsion. It goes beyond a simple complaint for things to be different in the marriage, and even the […]

The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work

From Amazon: With more than a million copies sold worldwide, The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work has revolutionized the way we understand, repair, and strengthen marriages. John Gottman’s unprecedented study of couples over a period of years has allowed him to observe the habits that can make—and break—a marriage. Here is the culmination of that work: the seven principles that guide couples on a path toward a harmonious and long-lasting relationship. Straightforward yet profound, these principles teach partners new approaches for resolving conflicts, creating new common ground, and achieving greater levels of intimacy. Gottman offers strategies and resources to help couples collaborate more effectively to resolve any problem, whether dealing with issues related to sex, money, religion, work, family, or anything else.