Sexual Faithfulness is More Than Not Having an Affair

I don’t understand why my husband is not satisfied with our sex life. I was a virgin when we married and I’ve remained sexually faithful to him throughout. I’ve never cheated on him and rarely say no to his advances. What more does he want from me? Sexual faithfulness is about remaining true and loyal […]

Choosing Freedom Over Blame

The blame game was originated by Adam in the Garden many years ago as he blamed Eve for his choice to sin. Eve in turn continued the game by blaming the serpent. Throughout the history of mankind this game has continued. Today it is often found in the popular motto: It’s not my fault. Commercials […]

For the last few weeks I have played this song on repeat many times over. There are seasons in life in which the soul is weary and we feel broken down and tired, as if life is just one big merry-go-round. During these times it is good acknowledge the ache of our souls while also reminding it to rise up. Our faithful connection with each other in Love gives us the hope to do this, even a thousand times again.


Why, my soul, are you downcast?
    Why so disturbed within me?
Put your hope in God,
    for I will yet praise him,
    my Savior and my God.

Psalm 42:11

Questioning Masturbation

Much debate has surrounded the topic of masturbation in Christian circles. Often the debate asks Is masturbation wrong? and much energy is spent trying prove whether it should be on the approved or not approved list. I’m realizing that a better question to ask regarding masturbation is that of Love. Debates about its sinfulness seems to bring […]

Self-Transcendent Masturbation

Many assume that the solitude act of masturbation is inherently selfish and self-centered. However, it is no more inherently selfish than the sex act is inherently unselfish. Masturbation is not incapable of being self-transcendent. The transcendence of both masturbation and sex depends more on one’s heart attitudes and spiritual maturity than the act itself. The solitude […]

Meaning Making and Masturbation

What meaning do we give masturbation? When our purpose is simply reducing sexual tension and pleasure we will have that (the body will continue to respond as it was created to), but we will also have misery and frustration because we are missing the Divine design; we have reduced ourselves to an animal that simply manages […]

What Does Masturbation Mean to You?

For some masturbation is a means of escape, a way to numb the ache of their longings. Others come to believe the physical release is all they desire and are left frustrated when their core desires are left undiminished; they place an expectation on masturbation that it alone is powerless to provide. A few are […]

Theology of Pleasure & Masturbation

Many Christians have moved away from seeing procreation as the only legitimate purpose for sexual expression.  Sex is also considered a gift of God for the purpose of deepening the bond of love and intimacy in marriage. Still, many are hesitant to accept pleasure as part of a pure purpose for our sexual expressions, and not […]

Celebrating Life and Masturbation

Christ came that we might have life, and life to the full. While procreation certainly involves brining children into the world, God’s creative, live-giving powers goes beyond this. As such, both marrieds and singles can participate in Christ mission to bring more life into the world; they both can be part of the spiritual mandate […]

Porn and the Hairy Wild Man

Does porn (or prostitution, affairs, and other forms of illicit sex) serve as a poor attempt to access the wild, hairy side of our sexual selves, a quest for heighten levels of eroticism that are deemed inappropriate for the niceness and tameness of marital sexuality and societal expectations? It is the mask of pseudo-intimacy and quasi-eroticism that removes the possibility of being seen. In combating porn, is it possible then that […]