Who Cares for the Sexual Lives of Men?

My dad was a private man when it came to sexual issues. I did find some of his Playboys growing up. And me and my friends used to joke about what we saw and what we wanted to do with the women. I guess, with my dad, I learned to keep most of my sexual […]

The Porn Trap: The Essential Guide to Overcoming Problems Caused by Pornography (2009)

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Breaking the silence, removing the shame

In this highly acclaimed recovery guide, renowned sex and relationship therapists Wendy and Larry Maltz shed new light on the compelling nature and destructive power of today’s instantly available pornography. Weaving together poignant real-life stories with innovative exercises, checklists, and expert advice, this groundbreaking resource provides a comprehensive program for understanding and healing porn addiction and other serious consequences of porn use.

The Sexual Healing Journey: A Guide for Survivors of Sexual Abuse

From Amazon: Originally published two decades ago, The Sexual Healing Journey is a highly respected resource for understanding and healing the intimate sexual problems caused by sex abuse. In this third edition, renowned author, psychotherapist, and certified sex therapist, Wendy Maltz, keeps this classic recovery book fresh with a new preface, revised materials, and an updated, expanded resource section. Compassionate and enduring, this guide presents a comprehensive program for healing that combines expert clinical advice with innovative exercises, steadfast techniques, and deeply moving stories of individuals who have overcome the challenges of sexual abuse to reclaim sex as safe, loving and enjoyable.

The Wounded Heart: Hope for Adult Victims of Childhood Sexual Abuse

From Amazon: Sexual abuse knows no religious or social boundaries. The Wounded Heart is an intensely personal and specific look at this form of abuse. Dr. Allender explores the secret lament of the soul damaged by sexual abuse and lays hold of the hope buried there by the One whose unstained image we all bear. Includes information about false memory issues.

Healing the Wounds of Sexual Addiction (2004)

From Amazon: With today’s rampant availability of Internet pornography, sexual addiction has become a national epidemic that affects up to 10 percent of Christians. As devastating as any drug habit, it brings heartbreak and despair to those it entangles. But there is help for men and women caught in sexual addiction’s downward spiral. This book offers a path that leads beyond compulsive thoughts and behaviors to healing and transformation. Sensitive to the shame of sexual addiction without minimizing its sinfulness, Dr. Mark Laaser traces the roots of the problem, discusses its patterns and impact, and maps out a biblical approach to self-control and sexual integrity. Previously titled Faithful and True, this revision includes an all-new section that deals with sexual addiction in the church. Other important changes reflect cultural trends, incorporate current research, and place a greater emphasis on spiritual growth. This book also addresses the unique needs and issues of female sex addicts. Whether you know someone with a sexual addiction or struggle yourself, Healing the Wounds of Sexual Addiction points the way to understanding, wholeness, and holiness.

Men, Sex, and Shame – Part 2

“A problem cannot be resolved until it has been faced.” –Dr. Dan Allender Is it possible that everyone, male and female, young and old, has been sexually abused? Would this help explain the prevalence of sexual shame for men? Sexual abuse can be defined as any behavior, attitude, or response that hinders normal sexual development. Our […]

Men, Sex, and Shame – Part 1

“Men are visual, right? So I have a hard time believing my husband when he says pornography is not about the makeup, firm bodies, and sexy lingerie. And I just can’t compete with that.” While it is true that men are wired to be keenly aware of visual clues, their desire to see often goes […]