Men, Sex, and Shame – Part 1

“Men are visual, right? So I have a hard time believing my husband when he says pornography is not about the makeup, firm bodies, and sexy lingerie. And I just can’t compete with that.” While it is true that men are wired to be keenly aware of visual clues, their desire to see often goes […]

Porn and the Hairy Wild Man

Does porn (or prostitution, affairs, and other forms of illicit sex) serve as a poor attempt to access the wild, hairy side of our sexual selves, a quest for heighten levels of eroticism that are deemed inappropriate for the niceness and tameness of marital sexuality and societal expectations? It is the mask of pseudo-intimacy and quasi-eroticism that removes the possibility of being seen. In combating porn, is it possible then that […]