Who Cares for the Sexual Lives of Men?

My dad was a private man when it came to sexual issues. I did find some of his Playboys growing up. And me and my friends used to joke about what we saw and what we wanted to do with the women. I guess, with my dad, I learned to keep most of my sexual […]

Do Men Do Intimacy Differently?

“Men move toward whatever makes them feel competent,” and sitting down to talk about feelings generally doesn’t fit the bill. However, this does not mean that men do not do intimacy or are simply not good at it. It means we must expand our understanding of intimacy and how we go about achieving it. For […]

The Difficult Road to a Championship Marriage

Why is marriage so hard? If we love each other shouldn’t things just click? Did we make a mistake in choosing to marry each other? The experience of marriage can be hard and this is in part by design. While marriage is not meant to make us feel miserable and hopeless, it is part of […]

Become a Marriage Mentor

It’s exciting and mildly terrifying to start this path of marriage. I love my parents, but wish we had someone to talk to who wouldn’t try to parent us, and who could also be more personal than professional counseling. A young couple embarking on the journey of marriage would benefit greatly from having an older […]

Marriage Weed Control Tips

A weed is “a plant considered undesirable in a particular situation.” Simply put, it is a plant in the wrong place or a plant other than the ones we desire and intend to grow. Every garden and yard must contend with weeds, and our marriage is no different. Just like our plants, marriages can be […]

It’s Not My Job to Grow Up My Spouse

The following insights are some of the hardest but most valuable interpersonal lessons I’ve learned over time… It’s not my job to “grow up” my husband. That’s God’s job. Realizing that my role in life and in my relationships, first and foremost, is to allow God to grow ME up has freed me from over-focusing on others. […]

Say Yes to Your Marriage

We are intentional beings. Daily we make choices on how to devote our time and energy. We may choose to keep up with our favorite sports team or television show, the trending topics on social media, or the latest political drama. We might also choose to dedicate our time to professional development, hobbies, physical health, […]

Erotic by His Design

“I feel bad for wanting sex so often. I know there are more important things in life. What can I do to reduce my sexual urges?” It is true sex dominates the lives of many men. And for some it has become the most important thing, defining their very self-worth and relational success. At the same […]

An Outward Focus (Marriage Purpose)

“Now that the kids have left the house it seems we don’t have much in common anymore. We go to work, worship, and occasionally spend time with friends, but our marriage no longer seems to have much meaning or purpose. We live separate lives and just happen to sleep in the same bed.” For many, […]

Marriage Mission, Vision, Purpose

Sexual Faithfulness is More Than Not Having an Affair

I don’t understand why my husband is not satisfied with our sex life. I was a virgin when we married and I’ve remained sexually faithful to him throughout. I’ve never cheated on him and rarely say no to his advances. What more does he want from me? Sexual faithfulness is about remaining true and loyal […]