“How did we get here? I thought you were the one. We once pledged our undying love to each other. We have beautiful children together. I wanted to and was ready to live the rest of my life with you. Yes, things were not perfect, but they were okay. Like many couples we had our issues. I know marriage can be hard, and just figured things would work out eventually. They didn’t. Now I am at a crossroads, and I don’t know what to do. I know I cannot continue the way things are, but I also hate the thought of tearing up our family. How did we get here? And how to I figure out how to move from this place?”
When our promising dreams for marriage turn into a nightmare, it can be difficult to know what to do next. We don’t want to give up on our dream nor do we want to continue living in the nightmare. Emotions are high and we long for clarity. We want to make a decision that we won’t soon regret. This is where discernment counseling can help you.
Discernment counseling is designed to help you find clarity as you consider the future of your marriage. Without trying to talk you into one path or another, discernment helps you and your spouse to thoughtfully consider the paths before you. In this way it is different than traditional marriage therapy, which assumes a decision has already been made.
Whether you decide to remain in the current state of your marriage, move toward separation or divorce, or decide to work on building a new marriage together, it is best when this major and potentially life-changing decision comes from a cool head. Too often our decisions here come from heated anger, bitterness, guilt, or being so tired we can’t think straight and just ready to be done. When this happens we might have deep regrets later down the road, wondering if there was a better way.
Discernment counseling creates the space for you to find clarity and make decisions you can stand by in the future. Life is so much richer when we are not weighed down with the burdens of regrets.
Are you at a crossroads in your marriage and not sure what to do? Are you ready to find clarity and live without regrets? Schedule your appointment today for discernment counseling and start moving toward your best life.