Here in Atlanta, the cool fall mornings have arrived and the leaves are bursting with their autumn colors. It’s fall harvest time! What we might miss by simply going to the grocery store and picking out the best pumpkin is that they didn’t arrive on our schedule. Seeds had to be planted and watered, and only after a process of growing and maturing are the pumpkins now ready for us to enjoy. A season of planting was required before the season of harvest.
The same is true for our sexuality. We cannot merely go to the store and pick up a ready-made sex life, or order one online. A fulfilling sex life requires an investment. Time and energy must be spent planting and watering if we want to experience the full goodness and beauty of our sexuality. This may come from reading books and articles, listening to podcasts, attending workshops, and of course lots of practice. When we need specific insights and coaching for our situation, meeting with a counselor can also help us to cultivate a satisfying sex life.
A plentiful harvest requires more than one seed to be planted. Reading just one book or attending only a few counseling sessions are probably not enough to produce the satisfaction we are looking for. After you have read a few books, continue attending workshops, meeting with a counselor, and putting in the needed practice. You never know when benefit will come from one activity or another, or from them all. Plant your seeds and wait patiently for the harvest. Don’t give up or quit. At the right time you will reap what you have sown.
What seeds are you planting today for your marriage? Sex life?
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