Too Stressed for Sex?

It is no surprise that life can be very stressful. Not only are we faced with many demands from work and our personal relationships, we are also bombarded daily with many local, national, and global concerns. There seems to be no shortage of issues demanding our attention and response. When this internal tension is persistent, it can take its toll on our sexuality.

Our sexual life is influenced by many variables, including the length and the intensity of our stressors. Chronic levels of high stress can eventually lead to decreased sexual desire and increased difficulties in becoming aroused or having an orgasm. When faced with these sexual symptoms, it is tempting to believe they are due to a medical condition that can be quickly fixed with the right pill. While there are many wonderful and very appropriate medications to help us restore sexual functioning, sometimes the answer is not in a pill but in our lifestyle.

Our sexual symptoms may be letting us know that we are indeed too stressed for sex. When the body experiences high levels of chronic stress it stays in survival mode, forcing thoughts of pleasure (and procreation) to take a back seat. Prolonged and intense stress knocks our sexuality offline because it is not needed for our immediate survival. Adopting a lifestyle of simplicity can help restore the pleasure in our sexuality.

While it is true that stress impacts our sexual life, it is also true that sex can provide stress relief. Having regular sex is a good stress management technique, and this goes much beyond just the desire for physical release. Sexual encounters with our spouse offer a passionate retreat from a stressful world, a moment to step away from the demands of life and be restored, refreshed, and renewed in Love. This brings much joy to our bodies, souls, and spirits. As a result, we are better able to cope with the many challenges that come our way.

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Let your lovemaking be a passionate retreat.

For many couples, their sex life, unfortunately, adds to their stress and frustration instead of bringing joy and beauty. Consider ways to reduce the stress outside of the bedroom to create a more intimate lovemaking atmosphere. Be intentional in talking about your encounters, and planting seeds that will help you experience all the benefits of a vibrant sex life, including reducing the effects of stress.

If you need help developing your love life into a passionate retreat schedule your appointment today.

As a counselor, my passion is to help others reach their full God-given potential relationally, sexually, and spiritually. I do this by creating a personal space for individuals and couples, free from the demands of others, to thoughtfully attend to the important and sensitive areas of their life. I work as an ordained Christian minister, licensed marriage and family therapist, and certified sex therapist in private practice in Suwanee, GA.

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