We live in story and we need story to make sense of the world around us. But all narratives are not created equal. And we open the door for disillusionment and despair when we push narratives not grounded in truth.
To be sure, we’re all storytellers. And often the story we tell ourselves is more important than the particular facts of the story. For instance, it matters little to our young hearts what our family or friends actually intended in their interactions with us. What sticks in our young hearts and minds is how we interpreted their actions.
All the same, we must be willing to correct our private narratives as more truth is revealed. And we’re guilty of merely pushing a narrative when we’re only willing to accept our interpretation of events.
For example, this might be the stories we tell ourselves about our parents, those who have disappointed us, or those on the other side of the aisle politically. While initially we’re just trying to make sense of things, it’s tempting then to only accept versions of a story that allow us to remain in a positive light or otherwise comfortable. And we demand that everyone accept our interpretation as correct.
To be fair, we might be naming many true elements. But we’ve given in to fear, pride, and shame when we cannot even entertain the possibility of another point of view.
And certainly the point is not to simply blindly accept someone else’s version of a story. But it is a call for humility, and a willingness to lovingly consider the good, the bad, and the ugly of our story as well.
Perhaps this reveals we bear more responsibility than we previously were willing to admit. But this ultimately gives us more freedom and confidence. Pushing a narrative for our own convenience leaves us building on a sandy foundation that will eventually crumble.
In the end, seek the best interpretation for the story of your life. But don’t settle for merely pushing a narrative that leaves you comfortable and safe. Allow truth to inform the narrative you tell yourself.
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