Fear is good in the right context. And certainly this is the case as we consider taking up any noble calling. Any sacred commitment or position of leadership should not be entered into lightly, but with a holy fear and reverence in proportion to the weight of the office we’re about to assume.

For instance, it’s natural, normal, and good to experience some hesitation before jumping into marriage. This is not merely having cold feet or running away from commitment, but rather a sober understanding of the marriage vow and the weight it carries. We’re signing up for a lifetime commitment to a journey that will consistently push us beyond our edge. It’s a journey of faith, as we do not know what will be required of us in the years ahead. The wise man does well to pause before accepting such an assignment. 

And the same is true with any position of leadership. Leaders are rightly held to a higher standard, as they’re to set the example for others to follow. But we know our own humanity and daily struggles. This doesn’t necessarily disqualify us from leadership, but it should cause us to pause lest we become the next leader who falls and brings much unnecessary suffering to the very ones we’ve been called to care for. Is our own house in reasonable order? And are we becoming the men who God can entrust with more power and influence? 

A holy fear is not insecurity or cowardice. Rather, it’s a deep reverence and respect for the mantle of responsibility being considered. And we’re prone to rush ahead foolishly without it – inviting much resentment and regret when we’ve not adequately counted the cost for the road ahead.

In the end, do not live in fear, but allow for a holy fear before accepting any high or sacred callings. This keeps you humble and your eyes fixed on God’s grace, rather than rushing ahead and being blind to your own pride.

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Dr. Corey Carlisle

Licensed marriage and family therapist and certified sex therapist who forms men for a life of strength - helping them reclaim their masculine soul through Christian counseling, teaching, and embodied formation. He practices in Suwanee, Georgia.

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