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Nightmare, Real, or Ideal Self? CreativeGenerousMasculinityPresenceStewardship

Nightmare, Real, or Ideal Self?

We each have a nightmare self, an ideal self, and a real self. It is…

Dr. Corey CarlisleFebruary 19, 2019

It’s Not Your Fault, but You’re Still Responsible Masculinity

It’s Not Your Fault, but You’re Still Responsible

If it is not my fault, then it is not my responsibility! Not so fast.…

Dr. Corey CarlisleFebruary 19, 2019

Toxic Masculinity Snippets

Toxic Masculinity

To focus on toxic masculinity misses the true essence of masculinity. Of course, there are…

Dr. Corey CarlisleFebruary 17, 2019

A Prayer for Men GraceHopeLarger StoryMasculinityPrayer

A Prayer for Men

Father, we declare with You, Your creation of us as men is very good,  though…

Dr. Corey CarlisleFebruary 17, 2019

Eros, Counseling, & Sexual Health (Podcast) CoachingCounselingErosFriendshipIntimacyLarger StoryMale SexualityMarriage TherapySex Therapy

Eros, Counseling, & Sexual Health (Podcast)

Listen to my interview with Rebecca Lemke (The Scarlet Virgins Podcast) as we discuss Eros, what…

Dr. Corey CarlisleJuly 17, 2018

Sex and the Search for Meaning BeautyCreativeGenerousHusbandIntimacyLarger StoryLoveMale SexualityMasculinityMusingsPleasureSexual MaturityUncategorized

Sex and the Search for Meaning

What's the meaning of sex? Men are often encouraged to see there is more to…

Dr. Corey CarlisleMay 19, 2018

The Pursuit of Sexual Maturity HusbandLarger StoryMale SexualityMasculinitySex EdSexual AnatomySexual DesireSexual IdentitySexual MaturitySexualityStewardship

The Pursuit of Sexual Maturity

Men are often known to be fixers. Whether replacing parts on our vehicles or making…

Dr. Corey CarlisleMay 10, 2018

Your Sex Drive is a Gift CreativeEmbodimentFaithFreedomGiftsGraceHusbandMale SexualityMasculinityPleasureSexual DesireShame

Your Sex Drive is a Gift

Imagine getting your son a highly prized gift, one you know will bring him much…

Dr. Corey CarlisleMay 8, 2018

Let Your Sexuality Shine as Light in the World Church ResponseHusbandLarger StoryMale SexualityMasculinityStewardship

Let Your Sexuality Shine as Light in the World

We don’t have to look far to see the dark side of male sexuality, everything…

Dr. Corey CarlisleMay 5, 2018

Why You Should Quit Your 12-Step Meeting CoachingHopeHusbandLarger StoryLustMale SexualityMasculinityPornographySexual AddictionSexual IdentitySpiritual Formation

Why You Should Quit Your 12-Step Meeting

Dave has a history of struggling with pornography and being tempted to engage in inappropriate…

Dr. Corey CarlisleMay 3, 2018

Being Creative, Passionate, and Generous CoachingCreativeGenerousHusbandMale SexualityMasculinityPassionateSpiritual FormationStewardship

Being Creative, Passionate, and Generous

As men, we get to reflect the strength of God in many creative, passionate, and…

Dr. Corey CarlisleMay 2, 2018

Male Sexuality – Telling a Better Story (Video) Church ResponseCoachingFreedomHusbandLarger StoryLustMale SexualityMasculinityPornographySexual FantasiesSexual IdentitySexual IntimacyShameSpiritual FormationStewardship

Male Sexuality – Telling a Better Story (Video)

Listen to my conversation with Dr. Jessica McCleese (BeFullyWell.com) as we discuss the need to…

Dr. Corey CarlisleMay 1, 2018

Overcoming Common Sexual Problems (Video) ArousalFemale SexualityIntimacyLovemaking AtmosphereLow Sexual DesireMale SexualitySex TherapySexual Intimacy

Overcoming Common Sexual Problems (Video)

While sex is a very natural part of the human experience, many couples are left…

Dr. Corey CarlisleApril 23, 2018

Building an Intimate Relationship with God (Video) IntimacyQuality TimeSoul CareSpiritual FormationStewardship

Building an Intimate Relationship with God (Video)

Many individuals feel too hurried to build an intimate relationship with God. While it will…

Dr. Corey CarlisleApril 23, 2018

What Story Are We Telling? Church ResponseCoachingLarger StoryMale SexualityMasculinityMentorSpiritual FormationStewardship

What Story Are We Telling?

Stories are powerful. They tell us who we are, why we are here, and what…

Dr. Corey CarlisleApril 13, 2018

Our Sexuality Is A Gold Mine BeautyCoachingHusbandMale SexualityMasculinitySingle SexualitySpiritual FormationStewardship

Our Sexuality Is A Gold Mine

Imagine a wealthy investor giving you a plot of land with a literal gold mine…

Dr. Corey CarlisleApril 11, 2018

Being a Sexual Man Is More Than You Think Male SexualityMasculinityStewardshipThe PenisTheology of Sex

Being a Sexual Man Is More Than You Think

What if our sexuality is more than what we do with our genitals? When sexuality…

Dr. Corey CarlisleApril 10, 2018

Playing It Safe Hurts AngerCoachingFaithFriendshipHusbandLarger StoryLoveLovemaking AtmosphereMale SexualityMasculinityShameSoul CareSpiritual FormationStewardship

Playing It Safe Hurts

As men, we gravitate toward things in which we feel competent – things we know…

Dr. Corey CarlisleApril 7, 2018

Come Out of the Harbor Snippets

Come Out of the Harbor

Men - it's time to come out of the harbor and live as the sexual…

Dr. Corey CarlisleApril 6, 2018

When the Prodigal Son Now Plays It Safe CoachingFaithFreedomHusbandMale SexualityMasculinitySpiritual FormationStewardship

When the Prodigal Son Now Plays It Safe

See if this sounds familiar. You grew up in a Christian home, and though your…

Dr. Corey CarlisleApril 4, 2018

Wanting Sex is Not the Problem Snippets

Wanting Sex is Not the Problem

Men - the problem is not in how often you desire sex, but rather in…

Dr. Corey CarlisleMarch 13, 2018

10 Ways to Help Your Wife Get Her Security from God (and Not from You) FaithFriendshipHusbandIntimacyLoveMarriageSpiritual FormationStewardshipWife

10 Ways to Help Your Wife Get Her Security from God (and Not from You)

Despite Solomon’s admission he couldn’t find one godly woman in the whole land (Ecclesiastes 7:28),…

Guest AuthorMarch 13, 2018

Still Responsible Snippets

Still Responsible

Don't neglect your duty as a man, husband, or father due to past sins.

Dr. Corey CarlisleFebruary 13, 2018

Porn on Sundays Snippets

Porn on Sundays

Pornhub reports it sees the highest volume of traffic on Sundays. Maybe porn users and…

Dr. Corey CarlisleFebruary 12, 2018

The Thrill of Hope is for Sex Too ChristmasCoachingFreedomHopeMale SexualityMasculinityMusingsSpiritual FormationStewardship

The Thrill of Hope is for Sex Too

O Holy Night is one of my favorite songs at Christmas. This year it reminded…

Dr. Corey CarlisleDecember 23, 2017

Who Teaches You Sexually? Church ResponseCoachingFreedomLarger StoryLoveMale SexualityMasculinityMentorSexual FantasiesShameSpiritual FormationStewardship

Who Teaches You Sexually?

Understanding and navigating our sexuality is often a challenging and lonely road. Many times, it…

Dr. Corey CarlisleDecember 18, 2017

Why do we keep having the same fights? ForgivenessFreedomGraceHopeIntimacyMarriagePersonality DifferencesPremarital

Why do we keep having the same fights?

It's said love is blind. We often get married with the best of intentions, yet our…

Dr. Corey CarlisleDecember 2, 2017

Sexual Styles of Relating for Men Lovemaking AtmosphereSexualitySpiritual FormationStyles of Relating

Sexual Styles of Relating for Men

Most guys desire to experience a passionate and free sexual life but are often unaware…

Dr. Corey CarlisleSeptember 27, 2017

Will I Ever Get Over the Shame of My Sexual Past? FreedomFriendshipGraceHopeLovePresenceShame

Will I Ever Get Over the Shame of My Sexual Past?

I know I am forgiven, but can I ever get over the shame of my…

Dr. Corey CarlisleSeptember 15, 2017

Who Cares for the Sexual Lives of Men? Church ResponseForgivenessFreedomFriendshipGraceLoveMale SexualityMarriageMasculinityMusingsShameSpiritual FormationStewardship

Who Cares for the Sexual Lives of Men?

The many benefits to driving also require much responsibility. An irresponsible driver is dangerous, not…

Dr. Corey CarlisleJune 24, 2017