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Will I Ever Get Over the Shame of My Sexual Past? FreedomFriendshipGraceHopeLovePresenceShame

Will I Ever Get Over the Shame of My Sexual Past?

I know I am forgiven, but can I ever get over the shame of my…

Dr. Corey CarlisleSeptember 15, 2017

Who Cares for the Sexual Lives of Men? Church ResponseForgivenessFreedomFriendshipGraceLoveMale SexualityMarriageMasculinityMusingsShameSpiritual FormationStewardship

Who Cares for the Sexual Lives of Men?

The many benefits to driving also require much responsibility. An irresponsible driver is dangerous, not…

Dr. Corey CarlisleJune 24, 2017

Do Men Do Intimacy Differently? Church ResponseCommunityFriendshipIntimacyLarger StoryLoveMale SexualityMarriageMasculinityStewardship

Do Men Do Intimacy Differently?

“Men move toward whatever makes them feel competent,” and sitting down to talk about feelings…

Dr. Corey CarlisleJune 20, 2017

Can We Acknowledge Each Other as Sexual Beings? BeautyChurch ResponseEcstasyEmbodimentErosErotic ImagesEroticismFemale SexualityFriendshipLustMale SexualityMasculinityMusingsNuditySexual DesireSexual FantasiesSexuality

Can We Acknowledge Each Other as Sexual Beings?

It's easy to acknowledge each other as male and female. What is much harder to…

Dr. Corey CarlisleJune 10, 2017

Are You a Digger or a Disher? DivorceForgivenessFreedomFriendshipGraceLoveMarriageMasculinityPersonality Differences

Are You a Digger or a Disher?

"I assumed if she wanted to know more about me she would ask. She didn’t,…

Dr. Corey CarlisleJune 2, 2017

Freeing Eros for Agape BeautyChurch ResponseEmbodimentErosErotic ImagesEroticismFreedomGraceLarger StoryLoveLustpassionSpiritual FormationSpiritual SexualityTheology of Sex

Freeing Eros for Agape

For many Christians, eros stands in stark opposition to agape forms of love. Eros is…

Dr. Corey CarlisleMay 26, 2017

The Difficult Road to a Championship Marriage Affair RecoveryCounselingDiscernment CounselingDivorceForgivenessGraceHopeIntimacyLoveMarriageMarriage TherapyMusingsStewardship

The Difficult Road to a Championship Marriage

Why is marriage so hard? If we love each other shouldn’t things just click? Did…

Dr. Corey CarlisleMay 25, 2017

Embracing the Bittersweet Transitions of Life CommunityDeathFaithFreedomHopeMarriageMusingsSingle SexualitySoul CareSpiritual Formation

Embracing the Bittersweet Transitions of Life

How exciting it must be to get married, to see your kids leave for college,…

Dr. Corey CarlisleMay 25, 2017

When You Married Your Opposite GraceLoveMarriagePersonality Differences

When You Married Your Opposite

Very often, the man I married (a.k.a. my annoyinghusband) drives me absolutely bonkers. And I do…

Guest AuthorMay 18, 2017

Empower Your Marriage with Grace GraceLoveMarriageSpiritual Formation

Empower Your Marriage with Grace

It's difficult to know how to respond when our spouse’s actions negatively affect us. We…

Dr. Corey CarlisleMay 16, 2017

Marriage Weed Control Tips LoveMarriageQuality TimeStewardship

Marriage Weed Control Tips

A weed is “a plant considered undesirable in a particular situation.” Simply put, it is…

Dr. Corey CarlisleMay 11, 2017

Musings on Sexual Attraction, Behaviors, and Desires BeautyMusingsSexual AttractionSexual FantasiesSexual Polarity

Musings on Sexual Attraction, Behaviors, and Desires

Maybe due to our general discomfort and anxiety in discussing sexual matters openly, we often…

Dr. Corey CarlisleMay 2, 2017

A Conversation for Men About the Human Body BeautyEmbodimentNudity

A Conversation for Men About the Human Body

How can we learn to appreciate the elegance and beauty of the human form? Often…

Dr. Corey CarlisleMarch 22, 2017

It’s Not My Job to Grow Up My Spouse FreedomIntimacyLoveMarriageSpiritual FormationStewardship

It’s Not My Job to Grow Up My Spouse

The following insights are some of the hardest but most valuable interpersonal lessons I’ve learned…

Guest AuthorMarch 14, 2017

Say Yes to Your Marriage FreedomMarriageStewardship

Say Yes to Your Marriage

We are intentional beings. Daily we make choices on how to devote our time and…

Dr. Corey CarlisleMarch 11, 2017

The Power of Sexual Wonder BeautyEcstasyErosErotic ImagesEroticismMusingsPornographySexual Fantasies

The Power of Sexual Wonder

After listening to a recent podcast exploring the power of wonder and why we need…

Dr. Corey CarlisleMarch 9, 2017

Pet Peeves in Marriage GiftsIntimacyLoveMarriagePersonality Differences

Pet Peeves in Marriage

There is a single, unopened Twix bar that continually sits on our nightstand. And it…

Guest AuthorFebruary 4, 2017

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Getting His Attention

Why can’t my husband pay more attention to me? After we got married it seemed…

Dr. Corey CarlisleJanuary 31, 2017

Desiring Ecstasy BeautyEcstasyErosEroticismMusings

Desiring Ecstasy

Crawling in from work exhausted and tired, my soul is hungry. I am ready for…

Dr. Corey CarlisleJanuary 19, 2017

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Erotic by His Design

It is true sex dominates the lives of many men. And for some it has…

Dr. Corey CarlisleAugust 20, 2016

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Loving Hard, Loving Soft

For many men having a predictable and strong erection is a defining characteristic of their…

Dr. Corey CarlisleAugust 5, 2016

An Outward Focus (Finding the Purpose of Marriage) Larger StoryMarriagePremaritalStewardship

An Outward Focus (Finding the Purpose of Marriage)

For many, the sole purpose of marriage is to merely have a regular companion to…

Dr. Corey CarlisleJuly 28, 2016

The Exclusive and Inclusive Nature of Marriage IntimacyLarger StoryLoveMarriagePersonality Differences

The Exclusive and Inclusive Nature of Marriage

My wife and our marriage are a priority in my life. However, at times I…

Dr. Corey CarlisleJuly 15, 2016

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Freedom of Sexual Fantasies

God has created us with a powerful mind. We are able to think, imagine, and…

Dr. Corey CarlisleJuly 8, 2016

How to get your wife to stop nagging you and initiate sex more often Female SexualityIntimacyLoveLovemaking AtmosphereMale SexualityMarriage

How to get your wife to stop nagging you and initiate sex more often

Dr. Corey recently wrote a post on my blog about helping wives know how to…

Dr. Corey CarlisleJuly 7, 2016

Building Intimacy Through Curiosity IntimacyLove

Building Intimacy Through Curiosity

Do you remember when you were dating and first getting to know your spouse? Chances…

Dr. Corey CarlisleJuly 1, 2016

From Contempt to Admiration AngerDivorceMarriage

From Contempt to Admiration

Dr. John Gottman, a relationship expert and researcher, has identified four horsemen that can statistically…

Dr. Corey CarlisleJune 28, 2016

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Beauty Hunting

A professor once reminded me of the need to be intentional about seeking beauty, especially when…

Dr. Corey CarlisleJune 24, 2016

Sexual Faithfulness is More Than Not Having an Affair Lovemaking AtmosphereSexual IntimacyStewardship

Sexual Faithfulness is More Than Not Having an Affair

Sexual faithfulness is about remaining true and loyal to the marriage bed. This is often…

Dr. Corey CarlisleJune 23, 2016

Choosing Freedom Over Blame FaithFreedomMusings

Choosing Freedom Over Blame

The blame game was originated by Adam in the Garden many years ago as he…

Dr. Corey CarlisleJune 22, 2016