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We want things to be different. And we can often see the change we want in our life and relationships. But making the transition from where we are to where we want to be is not easy.

The hardest part of change is the transition into the new. Even when the new is readily desired, it’s still disruptive moving into it.

Embracing the new requires a necessary ending of the old. And this may be enough to block our journey forward.

Business as usual is very comfortable. And this familiar is hard to give up even when it’s not satisfying.

But maybe even more difficult is enduring the place of transition – the threshold between what was and what is to come.

As much as we’re ready to let go of the old, rarely do we step immediately into the new.

There is a time of transition and waiting beforehand.

This is the winter before the next spring. Or Holy Saturday before Resurrection Sunday.

While sacred, this threshold is disruptive and we tend to get impatient.

There is no normal to hold on to and we’re prone to either fall back into the familiar old or rush ahead and settle for the cheap new.

This is an all too familiar theme in dating. Without this period of waiting, individuals are apt to either return back to a bad relationship or seek to find a rebound relationship as quickly as possible. And neither option tends to have a happy ending.

Whether in dating or life in general, it’s good to fully embrace this period of transition.

God is at work here – making room for more life and goodness even beyond our imagination.

New life is coming. Meanwhile, learn to rest in the transition.

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Dr. Corey Carlisle

Licensed marriage and family therapist and certified sex therapist - providing Christian counseling and soul care to individuals and couples, with a special emphasis on developing the masculine soul. Suwanee, GA 30024

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