Frequently Asked Questions

General questions

What services do you provide?

I offer professional Christian counseling and soul care services with a special emphasis on developing the masculine soul.

Counseling

Counseling includes traditional marriage and sex therapy. Here I help you address various marital or sexual concerns – ranging from basic communication and conflict resolution skills, to concerns regarding sexual desire or healing from past sexual wounds.

I also offer discernment counseling. There the focus here is to help you untangle the various knots of uncertainty life and relationships might present. This might involve decisions about your marriage, career, friendships, family drama, and the like. The point is to give you greater clarity to make decisions without regrets.

Soul Care

Soul care is a type of spiritual direction in which focus is on caring for and developing your inner world. This very similar to counseling, but attention is given to your growth and maturity more than addressing any particular problems.

Sexual fantasy interpretation

Fantasy interpretation might fall under counseling or soul care depending on your particular story. When fantasies have been acted out in problematic behaviors it’s usually addressed in the context of counseling – recovering from particular individual or relational wounds. But soul care might be helpful when these inner thoughts are disturbing, or you’re just curious, but they’ve not yet caused major problems in your life.

Who do you work with?

My services are primarily directed toward men – helping them to better understand themselves and to live with greater freedom, power, and love throughout their life and relationships.

But my services are also open to any man, woman, or couple that might benefit from addressing the relational, sexual, or spiritual parts of their life.

How can therapy help me?

I believe therapy is an opportunity for growth and to learn how to do life and relationships well. While we tackle and seek relief from particular problems, the point is not simply to manage or even eliminate symptoms.

All the problems we’re face with are an opportunity to grow in faith, hope, and love – to be transformed more and more into the image of Christ. And we greatly miss the mark when our focus is just on treating our symptoms and we fail to continue growing into the full of who God has created us to be.

What’s your approach to therapy?

Self-development

I take a self-development approach to therapy – meaning I do a lot of listening, asking questions, and offering insights while challenging you to self-reflect and discover who you want to become. The point for me is growth and not simply managing your symptoms.

Self-responsibility

While I help you to gain clarity in the decisions you make, you remain ultimately responsible for these decisions.

I am big on self-responsibility for individuals and mutual responsibility for couples. While everything that happens to us is not our fault, I believe we still have the freedom and responsibility to determine how we will respond. As such, I will regularly challenge you to focus on the choices you can make.

For those not used to such challenges, this might feel like blame. But I’m not blaming you for what happened, I’m only reminding you of your freedom and power to choose how you move forward.

Mutual dialogue

This also means therapy is not something I do to you and I don’t take responsibility for your outcomes. I see therapy as a mutual dialogue in which I offer you my expertise and wisdom as a guide, but we work together to find your way forward.

Do you give homework?

I do not typically assign homework exercises per se. But I do encourage you to practice integrating the things we talked about in our session into your daily life. Our time together then becomes a space to hold you accountable as we also discover what’s working, what’s not work, and what’s there is to learn from both.

How long does therapy take?

For some clients, one or two sessions are all that they need. For many others, therapy starts off with a few months of more intense and frequent work before tapering off to an as-needed basis.

Still others start with the long game in mind, particularly those coming in for spiritual direction and soul care. And whether monthly or a few times a year, I join these clients in the ongoing work of crafting their soul and becoming all that God has for them throughout their life and relationships.

What if we’re not a good fit?

Therapy is a very personal relationship and I recognize my style and approach is not a good fit for every client.

Our first session together is often like a blind date in which we’re both thoughtfully considering if we’re a good fit to continue working together.

Feel free to let me know at any point if you feel we’re not moving in the direction you desire. I’d be happy to make any reasonable adjustments necessary in our time together.

At the same time, I’d be equally willing to help you in connecting with another therapist when this is needed as well.

In the end, I want to get the help you need whether that is with me or someone else.

Can I meet with you if I’m not a Christian?

Yes! While I practice from a Christian worldview, I’m comfortable and willing to meet with those from different backgrounds as well. And regardless of background, I will treat you with the upmost dignity, excellence, and care.

Do you have a blog?

Yes, I maintain a daily blog on this site in which I offer practical wisdom for everyday life.

While the blog stands alone, this is also a great way to get a better sense of my counseling approach and the various topics I address. It’s not a therapy blog per se, but fits within my primarily mission of helping men better understand themselves and learn to live with greater freedom, power, and love.

You may sign up for the blog here or through following the link on the top menu of this site.

Practical matters

Do you accept insurance?

I do not accept direct payment from insurance companies to cover the cost of therapy. And you are expected to pay in full for each session.

However, many insurance companies are willing to reimburse you directly for my services. I provide a detailed receipt to assist you with the process.

I encourage you to check with your insurance provider to see what is covered on your plan and how to self-file a claim. I would be considered an out-of-network provider.

What if I cannot make a session (Cancellation policy)?

Your appointment time is reserved just for you. A late cancellation or missed visit leaves a hole in my day that could have been filled by another client. As such, I require 24 hours notice for any cancellations or changes to your appointment.

Clients who provide less than 24 hours notice, or miss their appointment, will be subject to a cancellation fee.

Of course, life happens and individual expectations can be made under specific circumstances by talking with me.

Do you have evening or weekend availability?

Yes. Currently, my regular in-person evening appointments are on Tuesdays with the last session starting at 7:00pm. I also offer late night online sessions on Mondays and Wednesdays at 8:00pm

I’m in the office one Saturday a month as well. And these sessions can be either in-person or online.

Where are you located?

I’m located at:

1325 Satellite Blvd., NW
Suite 1002,
Suwanee, Georgia 30024

My office is located in The Gates at Sugarloaf office complex just off the interaction of Old Peachtree Rd. and Satellite Blvd. And I share office space with Building Intimate Marriages, Inc.

Once you get to Building 1000, you can follow the signs and wait in the lobby of Building Intimate Marriages. I will come out to get you at the time of your session.

Can I give you a call?

Certainly! You may call me at 770.988.7686. If I’m not able to answer live, I will give you a call back. I’m usually able to return calls within 48 hours or less.

You may also schedule a time for us to chat through my client portal. This minimizes the potential or phone tag.

How do I schedule my appointments?

Appointments may be scheduled online through the client portal. And you’re welcome to contact me directly for any scheduling needs as well.

I sent you an email, but I’ve haven’t received a reply yet.

If it has been more than 48 hours and you haven’t received a reply from me yet, check your spam folder. Particularly with new contacts, my emails regularly get sent to junk folders.