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Appearing competent is often more important to us than asking for help. And too often it’s not until we hit rock bottom that we’re willing to accept a helping hand. But wisdom and humility remind us of our regular need.

Naturally, we want to do what we can on our own. Even as little kids, we tend to reject our parents’ help as a display of our own independence and ability.

And this is an excepted and normal part of our growth – to eventually stand on our own two feet as we navigate life.

But maturity and independence does not negate our occasional need for help.

In our work and relationships, and even in sorting through our own inner world, we will need help from others time and again.

And there is no shame here.

We will regularly face situations that overwhelm us and we need each other to find our way.

Asking for help when needed is a sign of wisdom and humility.

But perhaps we fear what others will think. I don’t want to appear foolish or weak.

Or, maybe we’re angry with ourselves for even needing help. I should be able to do this on my own.

In either case, our pride holds us back and we risk the devastation of hitting rock bottom.

A drowning man should not hold on to pride. But often we do.

We’re not weak, foolish, or hopelessly incompetent for needing help. And we only rob ourselves of our full potential when we don’t ask.

We all need help from time to time. And it’s okay to ask.

Don’t let your pride cause you to suffer alone when help is available.

Dr. Corey Carlisle

Licensed marriage and family therapist and certified sex therapist - providing Christian counseling and soul care to individuals and couples, with a special emphasis on developing the masculine soul. Suwanee, GA 30024

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