Many times it doesn’t matter what we’re doing as long as we’re doing it with those we love. In fact, good company can make bad coffee not taste so bad because the focus is no longer on the coffee but the company.
Of course, we should make every effort to provide meaningful experiences with each other. Life is short and we should make the most of each day while it’s still called today. But meaningful doesn’t mean we have to get lost in all the bells and whistles of an experience that we miss the heart of our time together.
The point of date nights with our wife, fishing trips with our friends, or play dates with our kids is not about any of the particulars we might do while we’re together. The point is simply to spend time together and to enjoy connecting however we happen to spend this time.
As such, we can still have a good time even if our meal is not that great, we didn’t catch any fish, or our favorite park is closed. Our natural disappointment on these particulars does not rob us of our joy of connecting with each other.
In fact, it might add to and enhance the experience as we share this disappointment together. It becomes part of the story and memory of our shared time – looking back and laughing at just how bad that coffee was. But we can look back and laugh because we were able to share this moment with the one we love.
We miss meaningful moments of connection when we get too caught up in the external trappings of our time together.
Enjoy good coffee whenever you can. And remember even bad coffee is not so bad when you enjoy it with those you love.