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A life of success can have many different definitions. And what’s considered an achievement for one might be a failure for another. We must regularly review our definitions to confirm we’re pursuing true success.

For example, attending and graduating from a famous college is the epitome of success for some. But, for many others, they’re satisfied with the education at their local university.

When success is a famous college than anything else is considered a failure. But if success is a good education then the popularity of the school becomes irrelevant.

A different definition of success informs the choices we make.

And the same is true throughout life.

What makes our work and career successful? Is it our salary or position of status within the company? Or, is success finding and doing the work that matters – using our talents and abilities to bring more life and goodness into the world?

What makes a successful marriage? For many, simply staying together until death is success. But for others success is growing ever deeper in their love, union, and divine purpose in the world.

Likewise, how to we define a successful sex life? Is mere frequency the only definition or does it also include more passion, intimacy, and playfulness?

To be sure, there’s nothing wrong with famous colleges and high-paying jobs, or marking 50+ years of marriage and pursuing greater frequency in our sex lives.

But all too often we settle for shallow definitions of success when there’s so much more available.

And sometimes we stress ourselves out trying to achieve some perceived notion of success that ultimately leaves us unsatisfied in the end.

Consider your definitions of success and invest in those with the deep meaning and purpose your soul craves.

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Dr. Corey Carlisle

Licensed marriage and family therapist and certified sex therapist - providing Christian counseling and soul care to individuals and couples, with a special emphasis on developing the masculine soul. Suwanee, GA 30024

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