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It’s been said that a journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step, but even before this step comes desire – a motivation to start the journey at all. And it’s desire and will working together that allows us to move closer to our destination.

To be sure, it takes desire to move toward the life we want to live. This is the fuel to get us going. And we’re not likely to continue on a path if there’s not some desire motivating us to do so. Even when our life is simply meeting the expectations of others, it’s because on some level we prefer the cost on this path as compared to its alternatives. 

When our potential is never actualized it’s often because of this lack of desire. We can have all the education, training, opportunities available, and the like, but it all means nothing without a heart of desire to get us going. 

And this often becomes a point of despair for our wives and those we’re in relationship with. They see what we’re capable of but grow frustrated when there seems to be no desire to move toward better on our part. 

But while desire motivates us and gets us going, it’s not enough by itself. We must also be willing to act and move in a meaningful direction toward our goal. Desire without this willingness is like having a car with a tank full of gas but never getting on the road to drive. We need the fuel. But unless the rubber meets the road we still don’t go anywhere. 

And here it’s often our own fears and insecurities that hold us back and add to our growing frustration – pent up desire without a meaningful outlet to express it. 

In the end, it takes both a desire and a will to bring more life and goodness into the world. Find your fuel and put your faith into action. 

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Dr. Corey Carlisle

Licensed marriage and family therapist and certified sex therapist - providing Christian counseling and soul care to individuals and couples, with a special emphasis on developing the masculine soul. Suwanee, GA 30024

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