Sometimes we miss each other because we’re not dialed into the frequency of each other’s heart. And certainly we can miss ourselves here as well. Dialing in allows us not only to communicate better but to also connect with each other’s deep heart.
To be sure, simply learning to listen goes a long way toward improving most of our relationships.
But hearing and understanding words is not the same as connecting.
For example, we might understand our wife’s desire to spend more time together as a couple. And we diligently try to honor this request with date nights and adventuring together.
While good, truly dialing into her goes deeper.
Attuning our heart to hers allows us to connect with the deep ache and loneliness she experiences when we don’t spend time together, and the profound joy of being chosen and pursued when we do.
In short, we allow our insides to connect with her insides – putting ourselves in her shoes as it were to experience both her pain and her joy.
This honors her experience and communicates that it matters.
We’re not just fulfilling her request. We’re caring for and showing compassion for her heart.
And the same would hold true for ourselves as well. Many times we’re out of sync with our own heart.
Tuning into our heart reminds us to listen within and connect with the movements of our own soul. And this opens the door for self-compassion and respect.
When we don’t dial in we’re more likely to drift apart – in the same room but miles apart from each other’s heart, and perhaps even our own.
Learn to dial in and connect with your deep heart and that of others.