Many times we’re inspired to grow. We have a vision of a better life, and we commit ourselves to moving in this direction. But sometimes we’re prodded onto the path of growth through our growing dissatisfaction with the status quo.
To be sure, we move in and out of growth cycles throughout our life. There are times in which we’re actively leveling up. And times in which we’re resting and enjoying our current stage of development. And we need both continually.
But it’s easy to forget this, and rest quickly becomes complacency. As such, it’s not always easy to know when it’s time to take that next step.
When disappointment settles in and we become dissatisfied with business as usual, it’s tempting to assume something is wrong, that we are somehow blowing it, or that someone else is to blame for withholding good from us. And while these might be true, our dissatisfaction might simply be a sign it’s time to grow.
For instance, it’s not unusual to experience levels of discontent after the honeymoon phase of marriage. But these are likely growing pains and not a sign that something is fundamentally wrong with our marriage.
This can also play out sexually. When our sex life becomes static or otherwise unfulfilling, it’s time to take it to the next level of growth.
Likewise, when we’re simply going through the motions at work, it’s time to discover a deeper meaning and purpose for our strength.
It’s tempting to return to the status quo or give up altogether when we misinterpret our dissatisfaction. But these frustrations are to motivate us out of our comfort zone and reengage our active efforts of growth.
In the end, don’t merely wallow in your dissatisfactions, as these are often signs to continue your journey of growth throughout your life and relationships.