Communication is a common issue brought into marriage therapy
One of the many issues couples bring into counseling is issues around communication and as I reminded this evening of just how important communication is in marriage and how the lack of communication can be devastating.
Communication is bringing light to important issues
For me communication is not about particularly solving a problem but bringing light to important issues, and so it’s like turning on a light in a dark room doesn’t immediately solve anything but allows us to see what we’re dealing with. And this seems particularly important when it comes to dealing with the deep movements of our heart and soul…these things matter to us, and so we need to talk about them, we need to bring them to the light in order for our marriage to thrive.
Staying in the dark and not talking sets us up to be just roommates and even risk affairs
But when we don’t, we don’t bring light to them, when we don’t talk about them, then we allow our marriage to simply become like roommates…where we may function well together, we may be great co-parents, but our hearts are far from each other.
And we also set ourselves up for the risk of affairs and infidelities…that come with the risk of not only blowing up our marriage, but also having a negative impact on all those we’re in relationship with.
Communication is not everything, but it is important
I don’t want to paint too high of a picture I promise too much from communication that’s going to solve all of our problems. But again, like turning on the light and a dark room, when we’re able to communicate about things important to us, we’re in a better position to find our way forward…rather than simply bumping around in the dark, hoping that these desires of our heart will eventually be taken care of, but never bringing light to them.
Honor the deep movements of your heart by bringing issues into the light
In order to honor these deep movements that God has placed in our heart, we need to bring them to the light. We need to talk about them. We need to turn on the light switch.
