Just do it is not always the best life advice. Sometimes we need to give a situation a second, and maybe even a third, thought before taking action.

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Rushing ahead without thinking can lead to more problems.

For instance, if I let my anger get the best of me, I might rush into a road rage situation that is not good for anyone involved.

Likewise, I might say something to my wife or friend that I later regret because I was quick to speak before thinking.

When we simply react to life situations, we are acting as fools who rush in and not living as rooted men.

Rooted men are grounded and think before they act.

What is the next best thing to do here? And how does this decision impact those involved?

Slowing down and reflecting on the situation helps us to make a wise choice for the good of those involved.

This is not merely gathering facts to prove our point. If we find ourselves in lawyer mode simply trying to win our case at all cost, we are still being reactive and not rooted.

Reflective thinking allows us to sort through our various feelings and consider other perspectives.

Is this truly a good decision or is my pride getting the best of me? Is my view the best perspective here, or is there a better way to understand this situation?

Reflective thinking allows for the possibility that we might be wrong or have not yet considered all the relevant information at hand.

And being right is not the same as being good. Reflective thinking provides space for us to ponder the good.

Instead of foolishly rushing into your next decision – pause and reflect. What is the next best thing to do here?

Dr. Corey Carlisle

Dr. Corey Carlisle

Licensed marriage and family therapist and certified sex therapist - providing Christian counseling and soul care to individuals and couples, with a special emphasis on developing the masculine soul. Suwanee, GA 30024