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Many decisions don’t have one clear answer and wisdom calls for us to take our time in counting the cost. But eventually a decision must be made and we cannot live life on the fence of indecision.

Every choice comes with a cost and it only makes sense not to rush foolishly into one or another.

Many times we’re too rash in our decision-making and we’re basically chasing the wind.

But the opposite extreme also brings problems.

This is when we straddle the fence of indecision. We’re not really in or out, but rather in a lukewarm state of ambivalence.

With Christ, the preference is to be either hot or cold. And when we straddle the fence this eventually frustrates everyone, including ourselves.

Perhaps we’re playing it safe and don’t want to risk rocking the boat with a bold and decisive decision. Or maybe we’ve not done the deep work to figure out what we actually want.

In either case, those in our life miss our wholehearted presence when we remain lukewarm.

And there’s likely quite a bit of internal discontent within ourselves as well.

We know there’s more to us and our life is not meant to be stuck in the crossroads. We often want clarity more than anyone else.

But once we’ve counted the cost, the only way forward is to make the best decision we can in faith.

And while costly, there’s still little need to worry if we realize later a better choice is needed. Like many roads, we can simply go up and turn around at the next intersection.

We allow much heartache and grief when we stay on the fence.

Count the cost, but get off the fence.

A courageous step of faith, however small, serves your life and relationships much better than the nauseous realities of indecision.

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Dr. Corey Carlisle

Licensed marriage and family therapist and certified sex therapist - providing Christian counseling and soul care to individuals and couples, with a special emphasis on developing the masculine soul. Suwanee, GA 30024

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