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As much as we might like to just keep moving forward, sometimes the only way forward is to go back. We don’t have everything we need to move toward better when there remain unhealed aspects of our past.

Of course we want to move passed hurt and pain as quickly as possible. And there’s no need to wallow in what cannot be undone.

But many times we’re too quick in our efforts to move on.

For example, regardless of how much we want to walk, run, and play again, it does little good to downplay the reality of a broken leg.

And to just push forward is likely to cause even more damage than the original break.

To get where we want to go we have to go back and sit with the brokenness – setting it straight, letting it heal, and slowly rebuilding the strength again.

This is not an overnight process. Nor is it fixed by simply trying to engage in the normal and desired activities as much as possible.

When the wounds of our past are not adequately healed they’re more prone to become infected and hinder our path forward.

For instance, when we struggle to offer basic goodness and civility to each other this is likely a symptom of deeper issues and unhealed wounds.

The simple act of walking is hard on a broken leg. 

But the point is not simply to try harder. We must go back and get healing before we’re able to fully move forward.

This doesn’t excuse our duty to love while we’re still healing. But we shortchange our ability to love when we don’t go back to find deep peace and inner healing.

Go back and heal to free you on your path forward.

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Dr. Corey Carlisle

Licensed marriage and family therapist and certified sex therapist - providing Christian counseling and soul care to individuals and couples, with a special emphasis on developing the masculine soul. Suwanee, GA 30024

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