Seasons of marriage are hard and lonely. And some days we wonder if it’s still worth the effort. As with the whole of life, we need those who can walk with us personally through the ups and downs of marriage as well. And marriage companions are those who can journey with us in the trenches as we encourage each other to keep fighting the good fight.
To be sure, there’s a private side to marriage. Many conversations will be just between the two of us as husband and wife. But this doesn’t mean we must do marriage alone. We need our village to thrive.
Certainly, this might include family and friends who can support us individually. And the professional support of a therapist is beneficial when we’re looking for deep healing in particular areas. But at times we need the personal touch of a friend and the emotional objectivity of a therapist, while also supporting us both at the same time. And this is where intentional marriage companions can help.
These might be friends, but there’s dedicated time to discuss the state of our marriage and not just enjoy each other’s company. And while we might also meet with a therapist, marriage companions offer a less formal relationship and the freedom to simply do life together as well.
For many, marriage mentors might come to mind. And there’s much value in spending time with older couples who are able to pour into us. But, while companions might share wisdom with each other, these are more peer relationships, or perhaps like older siblings rather than parents or grandparents.
In the end, a marriage companion is another couple who walks with us in caring for the heart of our marriage. It’s easy for despair and resentment to take root when there’s no space for open and honest dialogue.
Don’t do marriage alone. Take a few marriage companions with you and discover the depth and connection possible.
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