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It’s clear we don’t all speak the same language of love. What communicates love to us might not resonate with another, and vice versa. But becoming multilingual allows us to love fully – giving and receiving love in multiple languages of expression.

Of course, it’s only natural to speak love in the way that makes sense to us, and desire to receive in the way that most fills us up.

But often we remain frustrated when our efforts don’t seem to make a difference and when we’re consistently disappointed for not receiving the love we desire.

Recognizing we speak different languages is not to place a demand or expectation on the other. Nor is it to give up our native tongue to speak only the language of the other.

Rather, it gives us an opportunity to learn a new language as we also add to our own.

As we become multilingual, we’re able to hold on to the things important to us, while also speaking into and receiving love from the other. We’re not limited to our own language and can now allow others to love us in their own unique ways as well.

For instance, as much as we might enjoy spending quality time together, we might also learn to let people do things for us or receive meaningful gifts as an expression of their love for us.

While these might not be things we would naturally do or want for ourselves, we grow to appreciate them all the more as we become multilingual in love.

And this gives us the freedom to hold on to what’s important to us without hindering our ability to receive love in all the various ways others might also express it.

In the end, learn multiple languages of love in order to give and receive to the full.

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Dr. Corey Carlisle

Licensed marriage and family therapist and certified sex therapist - providing Christian counseling and soul care to individuals and couples, with a special emphasis on developing the masculine soul. Suwanee, GA 30024

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