There’s a way life works – a form and structure to follow. But it’s also true there’s no sheet music to life that tells us exactly how to show up and play in each moment. Much of life we must improvise and create as we go.

Musicians are occasionally called on to improvise – to perform spontaneously without prior preparation. However, improvising doesn’t mean he can just randomly play notes. He must still play within the form and structure of music theory. And within the bounds of this reality, he’s free to play as he is so moved.

This holds true for our life and relationships as well.

For instance, we must often improvise at work to discover how to have a true impact for good. God has given us a unique combination of talents and abilities and we cannot simply follow the score written for someone else’s life. We discover our sweet spot and the work that is ours to do as we allow ourselves to freely play and explore different ways to bring more life and goodness into the world.

Likewise, much of our marriage must also be improvised. While there are rules of engagements setting the boundaries of our union, we must still figure out our personal rhythms together on the fly. What works for others might not work for us and we must simply keep playing around until we settle into our unique groove.

Our sex life, parenting, friendships, and even life with God must also be improvised and discovered along the way. There are no formulas, recipes, or scores to tell us exactly how to live each day. We simply take our guiding principles and allow ourselves the freedom to play boldly. Life quickly becomes static and suffocating otherwise.

In the end, live within the structure, form, and wisdom of life. And remember your life and relationships don’t come with a prearranged score and you must often improvise as you find your way forward.

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Dr. Corey Carlisle

Dr. Corey Carlisle

Licensed marriage and family therapist and certified sex therapist - providing Christian counseling and soul care to individuals and couples, with a special emphasis on developing the masculine soul. Suwanee, GA 30024

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