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Change is rarely an intellectual problem. Often we know better but still hold on to what we’ve always done. And more information does little to change our approach to life. We must find our deeper yes in order to make necessary changes.

More often than not, we know our bad habits are not good for us, but we continue them anyway. Likewise, there are often many good habits we’d like to adopt but still struggle to do so.

In both cases, what appears good on the surface requires a deeper no we’re not willing to make. And this is not necessarily a bad thing. In fact, this resistance might actually reveal the deep desires of our heart.

For example, we know the many benefits of working out and maintaining a healthy lifestyle. But if working out takes us away from other meaningful pursuits we will remain reluctant to workout consistently.

And we don’t need more information on the benefits of working out. We need to find a way to honor our deep yes to those other pursuits as we also find a way to workout.

Honoring our deeper yes makes it more likely to consistently say yes to the good habits we want to adopt.

And a similar dynamic plays out in overcoming our bad habits. We’re searching for life through our vices and we have a hard time giving them up until we can find a taste of the life we’re looking for elsewhere.

However destructive our vice is saying yes to some deep desire in our soul. And when saying no to the vice also means saying no to this deep desire, we’re less likely to do it.

It’s not helpful to have more lectures on how bad our vices are. We already know this.

What we need is to discover our deeper yes so we no longer have to desperately hold on to our vices.

Whether adopting the good or eliminating the bad, resistance is a clue to discover the deeper yes of your soul.

Find this yes and live freely.

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Dr. Corey Carlisle

Licensed marriage and family therapist and certified sex therapist - providing Christian counseling and soul care to individuals and couples, with a special emphasis on developing the masculine soul. Suwanee, GA 30024

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