It’s easy to see things from our perspective and simply focus on what we want. And this can tempt us to become demanding of others – believing we know best and that they should just conform to our way of doing things. But this is not love, even if we’re technically right. 

Love is not just concerned with what is true, as it matters also that this truth is presented in a way others can receive and be blessed by it. Of course, what this looks like will often depend on the particular situation. But it should always be clear that we’re taking a posture of love with others and not merely pushing our own agenda. 

For instance, even as a boss, there’s a place to show dignity, respect, and kindness toward those working for us. While the buck might stop with us, a posture of love still considers how our decisions influence their lives. Have we created an atmosphere of grace that allows others to thrive while still holding them accountable? 

In marriage, we might not agree with every decision our wife makes. And, to be sure, many times love simply overlooks these offenses because they don’t matter in the long run. But even when it’s time to address important matters, a posture of love still calls us to confront the issues with gentleness and patience. The point is not to be right, but to promote God’s goodness in our relationship. 

And a similar posture is needed when we disagree with friends, neighbors, and even our enemies. A posture of love doesn’t mean anything goes. But it does require us to consider others and be committed to God’s best more than our own personal preferences. 

In the end, a posture of love is not concerned with being right. Rather, it’s remembering to practice grace and truth as you promote God’s goodness throughout your life and relationships. 

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Dr. Corey Carlisle

Dr. Corey Carlisle

Licensed marriage and family therapist and certified sex therapist - providing Christian counseling and soul care to individuals and couples, with a special emphasis on developing the masculine soul. Suwanee, GA 30024

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