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God created us as sexual beings and has given us the gift of our sexuality. As such, our sexuality is not our own and must be properly stewarded to be truly pleasing and honoring to him.

We understand the personal and private nature of sexuality. And generally we take this to mean we can do whatever we want with it, as long as we’re not hurting anyone else.

And, to be sure, there’s a lot of freedom in the development of our sexual selves. There’s not a one-size-fits-all box that we must all conform to.

At the same time, we still have the responsibility to grow it into its highest good.

This means we don’t get to be wasteful – simply indulging in selfish pleasures without care or concern for the consequences.

And we also don’t get to be neglectful – ignoring our development and simply maintaining the status quo.

As faithful stewards we must discover God’s purpose for our sexuality. And then commit ourselves to moving toward this vision everyday.

In part, this includes using our strength to bring more life and beauty into the world, and providing meaningful rhythms and structures to stand against chaos and destruction.

This is much more than what we do with our genitals and the pursuit of sensual pleasures. Though these are certainly useful tools toward a greater good.

In the end, we bless all those around when we steward our sexual selves well.

For instance, our wives have greater freedom to flourish and thrive when we’re handling our sexuality well. On the other hand, our sins and immaturity adds additional burdens to her becoming all that God has for her, as a sexual being and otherwise.

Don’t waste or neglect your sexuality. Faithfully steward your sexual self and become a blessing for all.

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Dr. Corey Carlisle

Licensed marriage and family therapist and certified sex therapist - providing Christian counseling and soul care to individuals and couples, with a special emphasis on developing the masculine soul. Suwanee, GA 30024

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