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Words are exposing and don’t always come out right. And maybe we secretly hope things will just work out without us having to talk about issues. But instead of clarity, we get confusion when we don’t talk.

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Some things are easy to talk about – weather, sports, and maybe even our opinion of social issues.

But things closer to home and personal are more difficult.

For instance, we’re unsure how our spouse feels about the state of our union. There are some things we would like to see different, but we convince ourselves things will just work out eventually.

We don’t talk about it and things only get worse – frustration and bitterness builds.

Talking about issues does not immediately resolve anything.

But good communication is like turning on a light in a dark room. Instead of blindly bumping into the furniture, we can now see clearly to navigate issues.

This brings clarity and the freedom to focus on how to actually move things forward.

When we don’t talk, we might get mad at each other for keep stubbing our toe and running into things. We yell, fight, and sulk – but are left confused as nothing gets resolved. The true issues are never addressed.

When we do talk, discover our differences and why certain issues are important to us.

We no longer make assumptions about the other and we take the risk of allowing our heart to be seen.

At first, talking about what is deeply personal and important may seem awkward and filled with many uncertainties. But in the end, it allows for greater clarity, confidence, and comfort in our relationships.

Talk about it. And discover the peace and freedom that comes.

Dr. Corey Carlisle

Licensed marriage and family therapist and certified sex therapist - providing Christian counseling and soul care to individuals and couples, with a special emphasis on developing the masculine soul. Suwanee, GA 30024

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