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We didn’t choose the day of our birth or the parents who would raise us. And we didn’t get a choice in our body type, the strength of our mind, or simply which side of town we would call home growing up. But while there are many aspects of life we did not choose, we must still learn to play the hand we’ve been dealt.

It’s only natural to lament the unfair realities of life. And we might wonder what we did to deserve our lot. Why do some people seem blessed with every opportunity while others face hardship and struggle at every turn?

But, as with many mysteries in this life, this is a question that doesn’t yield a satisfying answer. For better or worse, we’ve simply been dealt the hand we’ve been dealt.  

Of course, we should ponder and reflect on our life’s circumstances and seek to make them better every chance we get. Playing our hand is not resignation or giving up. And it’s not letting despair get the best of us even though we grieve and learn to accept reality on its own terms.

For instance, we might have to work twice as hard as the next guy to get in shape or to have the financial security we desire. Or perhaps it takes us longer to find and develop meaningful relationships with others. Or maybe our story is simply marked with more personal struggles, family wounds, or social hurdles than others.

Whatever the case, comparing our hand to others doesn’t change what’s required of us. And we must still find our way forward regardless of the challenges that come with our story.

In the end, the hand you’ve been dealt might not be fair. But it’s still your hand. Make the most of what you’ve been given to bring more life and goodness into the world.

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Dr. Corey Carlisle

Licensed marriage and family therapist and certified sex therapist - providing Christian counseling and soul care to individuals and couples, with a special emphasis on developing the masculine soul. Suwanee, GA 30024

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