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Relationships take time. And often the demands of life keep us from developing the deep and meaningful relationships we desire. But we can’t simply wait on things to get better. We must fight for our time together in order to make the most of our life and relationships.Without a doubt, time is precious. We get 24-hours each day and we can’t get this day back once it is gone.

Knowing this, we often try to squeeze as much as we can into each day. And while certainly it’s good not to waste time, often this leads us to spreading ourselves too thin.

And relationally this is often simply touching base with each other rather than having the time to dive deep and truly feed our souls.

For instance, in marriage, we might have time to catch up on each other’s day but not to dive into the deeper heart conversations. This is okay occasionally, and perhaps during some seasons of life. But eventually we need more than merely passing conversations, and navigating the logistics of life, for our marriage to thrive.

This is true in parenting as well. Between our work demands and their own school and social life, it can often seem like we’re just ships passing in the night with our kids. And while our job is not to be their friends per se, parenting still requires a relational intimacy that calls for us to spend extended time together.

Likewise, we can’t take the time with our friends for granted either. This doesn’t mean we have to hang out every weekend. But we do need more than the quick phone calls and occasional lunches together. We need time for longer conversations and soul connections as well.

To be sure, time together will look different for each relationship. But the key is fighting for both the quality and the quantity needed to thrive.

The very foundation of our relationship becomes shaky without sufficient time together.

Be intentional in fighting for your time together. This blesses you and moves your closer towards God’s best.

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Dr. Corey Carlisle

Licensed marriage and family therapist and certified sex therapist - providing Christian counseling and soul care to individuals and couples, with a special emphasis on developing the masculine soul. Suwanee, GA 30024

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