No man is an island and we should not try to do life alone. But not everyone is safe or can be trusted with the deep and personal aspects of our story. All the same, we must find our trusted others who can see the good, the bad, and the ugly of who we are and still choose to love us anyway. 

Initially, our parents and other family members might serve in this role. And how well we establish this basic trust early on certainly shapes our ability to form these relationships later in life. 

But, in time, those we select for our inner circle likely changes. And while our parents and family might still serve a supportive role, we often find those relationships thicker than blood to be our people

But whatever it looks like, we need to find those we can trust and who will have our backs through thick and thin. 

Of course, this can and should include our wife. But it also should not be limited to just her. We need at least one or two other men in our life to serve in this role as well. 

This becomes particularly helpful as we seek to navigate the different and often challenging seasons of marriage. We need guys who can hear our raw and unfiltered heart while still rooting for us and our marriage. 

In short, we trust them with the backstage access to our lives – knowing their heart for us is good regardless of whatever we might reveal to them. And ideally we extend this same dignity and respect to them as well. 

We were never meant to do life on our own and we’re more prone to anxiety and despair without a few trusted others in life. 

Find your trusted others to help you carry the burdens of life. While everyone cannot be trusted, we must take the risk to find someone to trust with our deep heart and story. 

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Dr. Corey Carlisle

Dr. Corey Carlisle

Licensed marriage and family therapist and certified sex therapist - providing Christian counseling and soul care to individuals and couples, with a special emphasis on developing the masculine soul. Suwanee, GA 30024

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