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There’s a certain thrill that comes with chasing after the desires of our heart. Our vision is clear and we’re motivated to do whatever it takes to make our dream a reality. And while this can get misdirected at times, there’s still value in the chase itself.

For instance, perhaps we pursued our wife before marriage, certain educational or professional credentials, a promotion at work, or the like. And, to be sure, we felt alive and our life full of purpose as we were chasing our goals.

It’s then confusing why we lose our passion and drive once we’ve crossed the finished line of our efforts. Why do we feel less happy once we’ve achieved our goals?

While there should be value and meaning in the things we pursue, this does not replace the value of the chase itself.

Always having something to pursue keeps a goal in front of us – consistently pushing us to our edge and beyond. But this must be properly aligned so that we’re not merely chasing our tails or simply the next shiny thing.

For example, pursuing our wife should not end on our wedding day. There’s much more to her heart and soul to be discovered in each season of our life together. As such, when our goal is to keep getting to know her, this chase never ends.

Likewise, we might always be learning, refining our skills, and considering the best position for us to work and bring more life and goodness into the world. In short, we continue chasing a goal that has no end.

Of course, we celebrate our milestones along the way. But we don’t confuse these milestones, and whatever independent value they might hold, with the need to keep pushing ourselves and not settling into a life of complacency.

In the end, the chase is an infinite game that keeps us motivated to pursue God’s best for our life and relationships. Celebrate your achievements along the way without losing sight of this long game.  

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Dr. Corey Carlisle

Licensed marriage and family therapist and certified sex therapist - providing Christian counseling and soul care to individuals and couples, with a special emphasis on developing the masculine soul. Suwanee, GA 30024

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