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We don’t always like the hand we’ve been dealt and would prefer different choices. But not liking choices is not the same as being stuck. We must have the courage to decide even when faced with options we don’t care for.

Often one choice opens the door for the next.

For example, deciding on a major in school generally leads to choosing a job in the related field.

This choice makes sense and we freely accept it even if it comes with other difficulties, such as negotiating our salary or deciding if we’re going to move away from our hometown.

What’s more difficult is when we’re faced with choices we didn’t see coming and don’t want to make.

Perhaps we’re confronted with medical decisions that are all risky. Or maybe our marriage is at a crossroads and every path forward seems marked with uncertainty. We might also find ourselves in relationship with someone who blames us for everything and takes no personal responsibility themselves.

In countless ways we’re confronted with difficult choices throughout our life and relationships.

And often we’re tempted to believe we’re stuck. But more often we simply don’t like the choices we have.

And rather than owning our hand, we hope others will deal us a new one and give us easier choices to make.

While technically deferring our responsibility is a choice, it’s a passive one that denies the freedom and power God has given us to make a difference.

Many choices don’t have an immediate answer and require much prayer and discernment to figure out. All the same, we’re not living by faith when we allow ourselves to stay “stuck” and refuse to take an active step forward.

Don’t stay stuck. Exercise your faith and trust God even in the face of uncertainty.

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Dr. Corey Carlisle

Licensed marriage and family therapist and certified sex therapist - providing Christian counseling and soul care to individuals and couples, with a special emphasis on developing the masculine soul. Suwanee, GA 30024

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