Wolves are dangerous predators. And certainly we would be better off without them…right? As it turns out, NO!

While dangerous, wolves bring stability and life. Their presence helps to control the overpopulation of deer and, consequently, soil erosion. This in turn allows plants and many other animals to thrive.

[Check out the video below on the wolves of Yellowstone.]

What are the wolves in your life? What have you been tempted to kill off because it is dangerous?

For many men, their sexuality falls into this category. It is feared, and may have even caused a lot of personal and relational damage. Killing it then seems like a good move.

However, like the removal of the wolves at Yellowstone, this has a cascading effect.

Our sexual energy is experienced as a life force, our creative and generous drive in the world. And when this life force is killed or diminished it has many unintended consequences.

Without a robust sexuality we cannot be wholehearted in our relationships and our work also loses its vitality. We might find ourselves bored and simply going through the motions of life. There is no spark or passion in our work, our marriage, or our friendships. In time, all these areas start to erode and decay.

It may appear “safer” to reduce the power of our sexuality, but in the long run, this is not good.

We cannot remove an essential element of God’s design for us without it having serious consequences, even if these consequences are not immediately seen.

We don’t have to look far to see the immense hurt and pain caused by the sexual lives of men. I wonder if this is a result of men who never learned how to dance with the wolf of their sexuality.

What would be different if we were able to embrace our sexual wolf – to harness its wildness for good, without killing it?

I believe we would raise up a generation of men with deep purpose and deep presence, who could build stronger families and a stronger society.

It’s time to welcome our wolf back!

Photo by Michael LaRosa on Unsplash

Dr. Corey Carlisle

Dr. Corey Carlisle

Licensed marriage and family therapist and certified sex therapist - providing Christian counseling and soul care to individuals and couples, with a special emphasis on developing the masculine soul. Suwanee, GA 30024

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