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We all want to be seen and desired for who we are uniquely. And even as we collectively celebrate romance, romance still needs a personal touch. Generic expressions of love do little to fan the flames of deep desire in our soul.

To be sure, the risk of love is dangerous. We make ourselves vulnerable whenever we move toward others in love. We’re putting ourselves out there and we don’t know how we will be received.

At the same time, this is not just about us. We want to express our love in such a way that resonates with the deep heart of the other – truly experiencing our love and bringing joy and delight to their souls.

But even here there’s risk and uncertainty, as it requires us to enter their world and know their hearts intimately.

And this is why we tend to play it safe.

For instance, we might do all the right things for our wife on special occasions – getting her a card and flowers, taking her for a nice meal, a night out together, and the like.

And, generally speaking, these are all good things to do. But they can also fall flat if they don’t come with a personal touch.

To love her well we must know her story and the things important to her heart.

There’s truth in the saying it’s the thought that counts. This is not to minimize the external, but rather to emphasize our heart’s motivations – grounding our expressions of love in the personal considerations of the other.

What’s important to her? And how can I speak to the deep desires of her heart?

The more time we spend considering the unique heart of the other the more confidence we can have that our gifts and expressions of love will hit the mark.

In the end, fan the flames of passion by bringing a personal touch to romance.

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Dr. Corey Carlisle

Licensed marriage and family therapist and certified sex therapist - providing Christian counseling and soul care to individuals and couples, with a special emphasis on developing the masculine soul. Suwanee, GA 30024

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