We’re capable of more love than we often give ourselves credit for. We tend to assume we have a fixed amount to give and can feel guilty when we consider sharing it with others. But our capacity for love runs deep and is expansive.
First-time parents often worry about loving their second child as much as the first. Their love tank is so full it’s hard to imagine loving another child with the same depth of intensity.
But as more children arrive they soon realize their love has not diminished but has rather expanded.
Of course, as there’s still only 24-hours in a day, time and energy spent with each additional child looks different. But while ever unique, the passionate love for each child has not faded.
And this truth of expansive love holds throughout our life and relationships.
For instance, we still love our parents and siblings even as we come to love our wife and children. We still love our families even as we expand and learn to love those we’ve been called to serve. And we can still love our own culture even as we open our hearts to love another.
As we grow things will be different and not everyone will like who we’re becoming.
Some might actually resent us for no longer having us to themselves. And we might also feel bad for not being there for them in the same way anymore.
But whether self-imposed or from others, we sell ourselves short when we allow guilt to hold us back from expanding our soul’s capacity for love.
Love is expansive. Grow into your fullness by generously opening your heart to the more.