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We all have different parts of who we are and different roles we play throughout life. And this speaks to the depth and complexity of the human soul. We will not fit in a one-size-fits-all box. But our souls become fragmented when there’s not also a deeper union bringing everything together.

The role we play at work is different than the role we play at home. And different sides of us also come out as we connect with one friend or another.

For instance, one friend might bring out our playful and adventurous side, while another brings out the more thoughtful and reflective part of who we are.

And generally speaking, there’s no conflict here because we’re the same person at our core. There’s an internal consistency holding everything together. And our different parts add flavorful nuance and not discrepancy.

On the other hand, we become fragmented when there’s a sharp disconnect between our different roles and parts.

For many this plays out in their sexuality. Their sexual interests, desires, and expressions are in stark contrast to the rest of their life – and not just separate and private, inconsistent.

And it’s this soul fragmentation that allows many sexual sins to continue and become darker. We manage the internal dissonance by keeping this part of who we are a world apart from the rest.

It’s sexual wholeness that allows us to fully integrate who we are and experience peace.

And we need a similar wholeness throughout the rest of our life and relationships.

We’re robbed of the fullness of joy and our ability to connect deeply with each other when our souls remain fragmented.

But wholeness brings renewed depth and richness, freedom and confidence, as we live passionately and make a meaningful difference in the world.

Don’t stay fragmented. Enjoy the different parts of who you are while keeping your soul intact.

Photo by Jilbert Ebrahimi on Unsplash

Dr. Corey Carlisle

Licensed marriage and family therapist and certified sex therapist - providing Christian counseling and soul care to individuals and couples, with a special emphasis on developing the masculine soul. Suwanee, GA 30024

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