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There’s wisdom in considering the best time to take action. We’re prone to miss many things and cause more harm when we blindly rush ahead. But we might also miss our open door if we wait too late. At the same time, life might not present us with the perfect goldilocks moment and we must courageously step forward in faith all the same. 

For instance, we might know we need to have a hard conversation with our wife, kids, or friend. And bombarding them simply when it’s convenient for us is not kind to them and comes with the potential of backfiring. It’s generally best to wait to a more opportune time when it’s clear they’re already physically or emotionally depleted. 

But perpetually putting off the conversation or otherwise sweeping the issue under the rug is not practicing love either. Ignoring difficult topics doesn’t make them go away. In fact, problems tend to become more of an issue when they’re not dealt with adequately. 

It’s in between these two extremes that we’re often waiting for our goldilocks moment – not too early, or too late, but just right. And certainly it’s good to seek out this moment whenever we can. 

But we quickly default to being too late when we continue to wait on the perfect, elusive time to act.

Many times we must simply start the conversation or take that next step, whatever it looks like, even when we remain uncertain on our timing. 

It’s possible the other might still have a bad reaction. But as we keep a cool head and calm heart we’re able to remain flexible and adjust to the needs of the moment. We’re not rushing ahead and so we don’t have to force anything. But we’re prepared to engage and so we don’t have to hold back either. 

Take wisdom with you as you decide the best time for action. But don’t let an elusive goldilocks moment keep you from stepping forward in faith all the same. 

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Dr. Corey Carlisle

Licensed marriage and family therapist and certified sex therapist - providing Christian counseling and soul care to individuals and couples, with a special emphasis on developing the masculine soul. Suwanee, GA 30024

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