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Sometimes there are no positive role models to guide us. Those around either don’t offer an active presence or they don’t provide an example we care to follow. But God still uses these voids to grow us.

Ideally, we have active mentors to walk with us and guide us toward the best version of ourselves.

But for many of us this is not the case. And rather than an active presence in our life we’ve been left with a void.

An unspoken expectation is placed on us to figure life out, but with no direct guidance.

And most days we feel alone and assume this is just normal.

But perhaps a different interpretation is needed.

Rather than being left on our own, maybe God is using this absence to challenge and grow us in ways we wouldn’t otherwise.

For instance, in some initiation rituals boys are left alone in the wild to find their inner strength and return to their community as men.

What might feel like abandonment is actually designed to help the boy access and know his true self.

And God often uses the voids in our life in the same way. The neglect and abandonment we experience from others might be God’s training ground to call out our greatness.

This doesn’t mean we attempt life on our own. We still need others to walk with us and trusted advisors to guide us. And often we must intentionally pursue these relationships.

All the same, we trust God is still at work – forging our inner strength and revealing our true identity even when the active guidance of others is missing.

Fill the void whenever possible. But allow God to forge your greatness even when others are not there for you.

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Dr. Corey Carlisle

Licensed marriage and family therapist and certified sex therapist - providing Christian counseling and soul care to individuals and couples, with a special emphasis on developing the masculine soul. Suwanee, GA 30024

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