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We are drawn to beauty – from sunsets to music, to friendships and sexual delights. And our inner lover invites us to drink deeply, as it takes the heart of a lover to see and appreciate beauty in its many forms.

To come alive to beauty, romance, and eros is to awaken our inner lover.

Often we assume the lover is confined to the bedroom. But sex is only one expression of the lover’s energy. And in fact, if we’re honest, the lover is not always present during sex.

When the lover is present, our hearts open to all that is good and beautiful in life.

And the lover gives us access to rich emotions – we’re able to feel with others and the world around us.

Our deep heart connects with the deep heart of others and we’re keenly aware of the one breath we share – attuned to their sorrows and their joys.

The lover also allows us to enjoy the deep pleasures of life.

There’s more to life than productivity and winning battles. And the lover reminds us to stop and smell the roses.

While the warrior gives us the strength to fight for what matters, the lover gives us a heart fully alive to enjoy God’s beauty inside and out.

Without the lover, life becomes dry and stagnant. There’s little passion or feeling as we go through the motions of life and relationships. We’re unable to give our hearts to others or receive theirs into ours.

And when the lover is immature or operates blindly, we’re likely to make an idol of every passing whim. We simply use others for our own pleasure and leave many broken hearts behind.

After many wounds, it’s tempting to shut the lover out for good.

But to love well you must take your heart with you and awaken your inner lover again.

Dr. Corey Carlisle

Licensed marriage and family therapist and certified sex therapist - providing Christian counseling and soul care to individuals and couples, with a special emphasis on developing the masculine soul. Suwanee, GA 30024

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