Most men have forgotten their deepest desires. We settle for an evening of television, a weekend on the lake, or whatever seems to make our wife happy today.

If only these were enough to satisfy our soul’s ache. They are not, but they are safer.

Surprisingly, it takes a lot of courage to live in integrity with our desires – to be unapologetically hungry for more.

More often than not we choose to play it safe. If we lower our expectations we minimize life’s disappointments.

This approach seems to make sense, but eventually backfires and actually leads to many more disappointments.

We disappoint others because we can only give them a shell of ourselves. We cannot be wholeheartedly present in our relationships if we are disconnected from our true heart’s desires. Others sense there is more to us, but are habitually disappointed by never experiencing this more.

In time, we feel the disappointment ourselves. We know there is more to us, and regret we’ve only gone through the motions of life and have not truly lived. What if we took that job, pursued that relationship, or seized that experience?

What do you want?

This is not a selfish question. It is a question that grounds us and allows us to offer the best of ourselves to others.

When we know what we desire, our life has direction, meaning, and hope.  No longer do we merely drift in our work and relationships. We show up wholeheartedly and decisively. This is a blessing for all.

Don’t passively drift through life. Discover your deep desire and live the life God created you for.

Dr. Corey Carlisle

Dr. Corey Carlisle

Licensed marriage and family therapist and certified sex therapist - providing Christian counseling and soul care to individuals and couples, with a special emphasis on developing the masculine soul. Suwanee, GA 30024

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