Skip to main content

Many aspects of life are dry, mundane, and lonely. And romance brings a spark of energy to our days – inviting us into this mysterious reality of feeling desired and uniquely loved. We all long for romance, though we must often be reminded to stay open to the many ways God is romancing our hearts.

Typically, we think of romance only in terms of the sexual dance between men and women. And certainly, there is a beautiful and mysterious quality to this dance rightly considered romantic.

But romance is not, and should not be, limited to the domain of dating and married couples only. In fact, we miss much of what it has to offer, even in marriage, when we do. It’s for us all.

For instance, we can see this in the way God romances us. He is the Great Romancer and woos us through creation, our favorite songs and books, and those Godwinks that personally touch our souls and remind us that we are seen.

We might also experience a type of romance in friendship – the mysterious bond among kindred spirits. Something knits our souls together beyond mere convenience or practical realities that simply makes life more enjoyable to live.

Likewise, elements of romance might be found in our local and broader communities – moments in which we’re being sought after and treasured, and where we find a true sense of belonging. We’re not merely going through the motions of our life together; there’s a strong desire, joy, and dedication of our hearts to this community.

Whatever it looks like, romance gives us the feeling of being seen and desired, chosen and invited into a love story that reflects God’s passionate desire for each of us.

We put too much pressure and expectations on dating and marriage when we don’t stay open to the infinite ways God invites us into his sacred romance.

You were created with a heart for romance. Keep your heart open to the many ways God woos you and invites you into his story of love.

Photo by Hadi Ul hassan on Unsplash

Dr. Corey Carlisle

Licensed marriage and family therapist and certified sex therapist - providing Christian counseling and soul care to individuals and couples, with a special emphasis on developing the masculine soul. Suwanee, GA 30024

Leave a Reply