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Sometimes words are not enough. In the middle of a storm, we need much more than lofty words or good advice. We need to experience love with skin on – someone who will be with us through the storm.

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As men, we typically enjoy fixing things. And our ability to compartmentalize is generally pretty strong as well.

However, this is not always the best combination in caring for others who are going through a hard time.

We are tempted to offer cool rational advice, which is often detached from the emotional experience of the other.

And not only can we get stuck in fix-it mode, we can also grow frustrated and checkout if the other does not respond positively to our “help.”

Nothing I do seems to work. So, I just won’t do anything.

Our challenge is to learn to love with skin on.

Sometimes it’s hard to believe we are truly loved – no matter how much we are told and “know” otherwise. The shame and fear of not being worthy has gotten the best of us.

A lived reality is often the only antidote in these moments. More than well-meaning words and advice, we need the experience of love and not just the mere knowledge of it.

Our physical presence and touch can provide an undeniable reality that helps to dissipate these emotional storms.

Without saying a word, our presence communicates – I’m here with you in this!

And our touch, maybe through a hug, allows the other to experience the tangible reality of our love.

When words are not enough, simply be love, and let love be experienced through your very being.

Provide the undeniable reality of love by loving with skin on.

Dr. Corey Carlisle

Licensed marriage and family therapist and certified sex therapist - providing Christian counseling and soul care to individuals and couples, with a special emphasis on developing the masculine soul. Suwanee, GA 30024

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