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It’s easy to stick by someone when things are good. But the test of true love is our willingness to stand by each other through thick and thin no matter what. And much of this we won’t know until we go through our hard days.

A fair-weather fan only pays attention to the game when their team is doing well, while a true fan is there no matter what. And many of our relationships follow a similar dynamic.

For instance, friends generally have no problem being in our life when we can simply have a good time together. But many soon disappear when difficult days come.

This might be the case when we’re going through a health issue, the death of a family member, marital struggles, or seeking redemption from some major moral failure. Whatever it looks like, we’re often surprised at who shows up, or doesn’t, when we need someone the most.

Perhaps those we spent the most time with were actually fair-weather friends, while others demonstrated true love in our time of need even though we haven’t invested much in our relationship together.

To be fair, many simply don’t know how to love us in these moments, but they would be willing to learn if we can remain humble enough to extend them grace when they might otherwise appear fickle. 

All the same, our dark days show us who’s willing to practice true love together, and who’s merely around for a good time. And while this naturally can bring disappointment, it also allows us to audit our friendships to know who should be in our inner circle and who should not.

We need those in our inner circle who will stick by us no matter what as we seek to do the same for them. This commitment and loyalty to each other allows our souls to thrive.

Find your trusted others who will stand by you no matter what. And commit to showing them this true love as well.

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Dr. Corey Carlisle

Licensed marriage and family therapist and certified sex therapist - providing Christian counseling and soul care to individuals and couples, with a special emphasis on developing the masculine soul. Suwanee, GA 30024

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